In general, in Israel it is very accepted and begins just at the age of 13. I didn’t understand what was “understandable” in not letting my daughter go to her girlfriend. And you can meet your family if you want - invite them all together somewhere - to the sea, to a picnic. Here you will chat.
Naturally, I allow.
And not at the age of 13, but from the age of 5-6.
My friend's daughter is a year older, they live nearby. And Sasha spent the night with them more than once, and Rita with us (now his son is almost 9 years old).
This is such an adventure - chatting before going to bed, nightly trips to the kitchen - poking something tasty from the refrigerator .. And it doesn’t matter that everything would be given anyway, it’s important that it’s a secret. Revelations, advice, conversations in the dark about what you are afraid to talk face to face with your friends - boys and girls, looks, first sympathies ..
I have no right, I think, to deprive my son of this.
*Wait, let's make Ritka a separate room, then it will be even more simple!*
On the subject: indeed, for children this is an adventure, an opportunity to go beyond the everyday framework, there is nothing wrong with such overnight stays. It’s just that you were so blinkered as a child, hence the legs grow. One BUT: it is desirable, of course, to let go to a family that you know well.
I was also categorically not allowed in my childhood, I still did not understand why. I do not know how such activities can be harmful. Surrounded by my children, staying at each other's place to sleep is very common with kindergarten, all my friends parents strongly support and encourage this. My friends and I periodically change children for the weekend - and the children are happy, and free evenings are freed up for parents.
Correctly said, it is naturally necessary to phone the girl’s mother
I understand the concerns. I remember my doubts when the youngest was released for the first time at the age of 11. We talked about possible situations, what to do, took the phones, talked with the parents, and let them go. We ourselves also accept overnight stays, there were no difficulties, just extra children in the family. The only thing is that we are against more overnight stays in a short period of time. It used to be asked almost every weekend. They explained that the family (both ours and someone else's) should have their own time. And overnight stay, by agreement, no more than 1 time per month. There are exceptions, but they are discussed in advance.
I remember from childhood: I rarely spent the night with my girlfriend, despite the fact that our parents are colleagues. We stayed together when my parents had corporate parties.
For us it was a real holiday. We cooked something delicious, watched a movie, chatted about this and that, washed the dishes after ourselves. Everything was great.
It was 10-11 years ago (we were just 12-13 years old), I don’t know now. But in principle, under your supervision, why not? The main thing is to coordinate with the girlfriend's parents.
As a child, I was forbidden even to bring guests. not like spending the night.
my son is now 7. I allow him to spend the night with .. and them with us. it's so natural for me. there were never any problems.
Responsibility for someone else's child within the framework of my apartment is quite exalted for me. and it helps to clearly pronounce the rules of my house - do not climb on my bed, clean up after yourself, do not wake me up in the morning))
In my own way childhood experience- this is a welcome and happy action, to stay overnight with a friend! You can stay up longer (if your friend’s parents are calmer :)), you can wallow and talk until the morning, and in the morning you can immerse yourself in someone else’s life, breakfast is unusual, some kind of rituals ... Very cool, and I don’t see what’s there at all maybe "not so" harmful, but the benefits are obvious - a satisfied thirst for communication, a sense of independence!
And I don’t understand what “responsibility for someone else’s child” means, especially if the “child” is 13 years old, already a healthy aunt.
we had 4 families. parents were in the same class.
stay for the children to spend the night with each other, like two fingers on the asphalt. years from 6-7
when I grew up and stayed with my classmates more than once and they came to me. this is quite an adventure!
not to allow my daughter to go to a family that I do not know, maybe.
and bring a friend to us, why not?
And how did you feel as a child, when you were forbidden to spend the night with your friends? I think your daughter feels the same way. In general, 13 years is quite a conscious age. And, moreover, it is exactly what is forbidden at 13 years old (and older) that you really want to do with your parents behind your back.
I felt wild embarrassment and shame when I risked asking. At first they looked at me indignantly: “You couldn’t think of anything else ???” , and then suspiciously: "What are you going to do there?" That’s why I’m asking this question - I don’t seem to see anything bad myself, but parental education makes itself felt
I think it's normal to want to spend more time with your girlfriend. Feel like not a child with adults, but with someone on an equal footing. If you know that family, then you can let go. The daughter must be trusted, but before that it is necessary to critically evaluate her friend, her family, their habits, way of life. To exclude even the possibility of sexual harassment by members of that family, for example; or conversations that are considered indecent in your family, for example ... yes, a lot of things, but you will understand and feel it when you get to know them.
And more about "allow yourself." After all, this is her house, not only yours? Can you invite a friend or relative over for the night (for various reasons)? If the house has an unambiguous rule "no!" - this is not for everyone, and for her. If it’s almost the opposite, your house is hospitable, then allow her to become a hospitable hostess.
All this is my opinion, of course.
yes you what! This OK one of the main pleasures childhood! :)))
I allow years from the age of 6. I have a son. and he spent the night with friends, and they with him. and now these overnight stays are a joyful and cool event, although of course it’s troublesome when children come to spend the night with us. as far as I know, the girls from his class constantly spend the night with each other.
and in our childhood a lot of children often spent the night, it was very fun and great. such wonderful memories
As a child, I only slept at my cousin's, but it was a complete delight and completely special event with iters, chatter in bed and all sorts of secrets (it is clear that her mother is my aunt, so there were no problems on this side). At the age of five, my daughter also managed to spend the night with her cousin, although in general she is a very motherly girl and at home falls asleep only in my or her father's presence. But here at the cousin everything went without problems! With girlfriends, they also ask each other to spend the night, we agreed with their parents that after 6 years we will try.
I see the emotional benefit in such events, well, as you have already been told, this is part of childhood. Potential harm: they will play tricks, fall asleep late, not get enough sleep - it was like that with us, but because of this I would not refuse the idea itself, but simply would appoint an overnight stay for the weekend or holidays.
What else is the "May" ball? I shrugged my shoulders, glowing inwardly. Painfully this daughter's girlfriend was good! She looks like an angel, but in her sly green eyes I always saw a depraved imp.
I got up to go to greet Yulia, and at the same time admire her. And show yourself. Although I am 37, I have not lost my form - a gym plus a swimming pool - in general, women fell for me. Several stormy novels on my account somewhere even fueled interest in my wife. Her work - she often traveled to Chukhnya on business - contributed a lot to interesting meetings. However, I was not Don Juan. On the contrary, I'll tell you a secret, to approach a woman, or invite a colleague to a restaurant - each time I did this with a certain amount of timidity, somewhere even with some kind of internal resistance.
Hello, Yul, - going out into the hallway, I greeted my daughter's girlfriend, hanging a jacket on a hanger.
Good evening, Uncle Vlad!
Oh good! In a short denim skirt, in a white tank top, leaving a flat tanned belly open, Yulia was simply irresistible. Her gaze was outrageously innocent during my, frankly speaking, rather impudent examination. I don't understand her at all. Either she is unaware of her impact on men, or she pretends not to understand. And now, Julia bent down to throw off her shoes. It took my breath away from the sight of her half-naked, feminine full breasts in the neckline of the topic.
Uncle Vlad, you are the best best dad in the world, - Yulia purred, slipping behind her daughter into her room. At the same time, her breasts slid over my elbow. Wow!!! Is she doing this on purpose, or did I play the pillar too hard, standing in the way of the girl?
I don’t know what the girls came up with there, but they kept scurrying through the living room - from the bedroom to the daughter’s room and back. I didn’t mind at all, admiring the slender legs of my daughter’s friend, her chiseled figure, secretly licking my lips ... I don’t remember how long it lasted, I froze at some point ...
Waking up somewhere at 12, I listened - the girlfriends seemed to calm down. I took a shower and trudged into the bedroom.
Oops! My daughter was sleeping on my bed. She fell asleep, poor thing, right in her clothes. I turned off the light and went to my daughter's room to unpack her bed and move her to my own bed. The fact that Yulia was supposed to stay for the night flew out of her head completely.
I opened the door ... And damn it - Yulia was lying on her side on the dismantled bed. Yes, how she lay! The blanket was knocked off, exposing slender legs and, most importantly, a swarthy ass with white stripes from a thong. Yulia was at the resort in winter, and these stripes… Mmmm… What a delight!
Despite the tempting look and a certain swelling in the groin, I tried to focus on what I should do now - Yulia was lying diagonally, and her daughter obviously would not fit here.
Her pussy was absolutely adorable - very neat, two even pink stripes of inner labia between carefully shaved outer labia. So I wanted to touch them. Hand, tongue ... To feel their tenderness, readiness for my touch. And the butt! She was so smooth, so silky even to the eye...
Okay, I’ll just cover it, and I’ll go to sleep in the living room myself ... When the door closed, the light from the opening stopped falling on the bed, but the curtains were not drawn, and Yulia’s ass and legs still aroused me not like a child.
I sat down on the edge, thirsty inhaling the faint scent of perfume. The member was already so that it seemed that he would now break through the fabric of his trousers. With a trembling hand, I touched my ass. The skin of the elastic buttocks was really very tender.
The girl did not wake up, and I, emboldened, began to stroke the velvety roundness. Seeing no reaction, with bated breath, I moved my hand into the crevice between the buttocks and touched the pussy. My middle finger slid along the petals, resting on her clit. The lips were even softer, and they were, I felt it well, wet. Julia took a long breath. So much so that I almost jumped out of my pants to plant her with all the dope.
In fact, I froze, afraid to move. Nothing happened, however, and my finger slipped into the tender, wet depths. For a while, I caressed the girl, then deeply penetrating, then with light touches stroking the clitoris and the upper corner of the pussy. At the same time, I admired the petals wrapped around my finger. The lips were clearly swollen and slightly opened, the dark, narrow throat of the pussy no longer closed when my finger left it.
Yulkino's breathing quickened? Or did it seem to me? I carefully got up and looked at her face. Plump lips half-opened, the upper one slightly raised, exposing a strip of white teeth, the eyes were still closed ... The face was so beautiful and sexy, as only happens with a woman who is caressed between her legs.
Sleeping or not sleeping? Yes, I didn’t care anymore, I continued to manipulate, and at some point Yulia groaned softly and briefly.
This was the last straw. I took off my pants and got in the back. My glowing head touched the delicate petals. Gasping with passion, I caressed my pussy for a while, and then carefully entered.
Julia didn't react at all. And I, still afraid to wake her up, moved smoothly. But pushed the member very deeply. The girl was wet and very tight, I wanted to feel her stretched to the very balls. Short, barely audible moans broke from Yulia's lips. Or loud sighs.
I put my hand on my thigh to move the young body towards my penis, my movements became more frequent, and Yulia began to moan louder and even, as it seemed to me, give a little ass to get deeper on my penis. My hand covered the elastic hemisphere of the chest, feeling the hard tubercle of the nipple in the palm of my hand. I admired the firmness of the girl's chest and squeezed it hard.
Quiet, I suddenly heard a hiss.
I froze for a moment, but then, realizing that before that I had done everything right, I began to drive the member with sharp, quick blows. Julia was already moaning, without ceasing, to the beat of my movements and the shaking ass. I wanted to break this elastic, slender, quivering body, so submissive to me. I, growling, turned the girl on her stomach and continued to drive a hard cock into the wet depths.
Oh no, don't! Yulia groaned. And she arched her back and lifted her ass so that my penetrations were deeper.
No, no, I don't want to! the girl suddenly screamed. Then she arched, she moaned thinly. I felt her tight and narrow vagina contract. I got up and saw how the dark anus was contracting in the twilight. Unable to stand it, I pulled out a member and, growling, sprinkled tanned roundness with sperm. The orgasm was long and piercing. While I was finishing, Julia obediently lay, doused with my sperm.
I wearily sank down next to the girl and carefully touched her bare shoulder with my lips.
Uncle Vlad, I want to sleep. We have to get up at six tomorrow...
I mumbled something like she was amazing, got a very sleepy "I know" in response, and hurried back to the living room.
After smoking two cigarettes in a row with thoughts of “what have I done”, I fell asleep and fell asleep surprisingly quickly.
I dreamed of a continuation of the nightly adventures. How naked Julia clung to my groin and with her delicious lips kisses my cock, licks it. I try to explain to her that you can still suck, but she does not understand and continues to just take the head into her mouth a little.
Imagine my surprise when I opened my eyes! The blond head actually bent over my groin. Julia was kneeling in front of the sofa, fully dressed, and kissing my cock!
The girl noticed my awakening and, smiling mischievously, asked: - Am I doing this well?
The best! I said sincerely, at the same time taking her small hand in mine. I put cool fingers on the barrel and, covering them with mine, made a couple of forward movements. Julia orientated quickly, tenaciously clasping my cock, she began to masturbate him, directing him into her sensual mouth.
Looking up from her work for a moment, Yulia looked at me:
She is in the shower. She needs a towel. In any case, she hasn't washed her hair yet.
I breathed a sigh of relief, and Yulia again clung to my body, which was thirsty for her lips.
I tried to pull her towards me to enter her. But she shook her head.
Oh, as it turns out, a negative answer is pleasant. Her mooing through my cock-occupied mouth, her shaking her head was so sensitive to my cock in the captivity of her lips! Why do others never shake their heads during blowjobs? Yes, if the tongue is still pressed against the head at this moment?
Make sponges ring and do them the same way as with your hand, - I asked hoarsely.
Julia obeyed, and I growled with lust and indescribable emotions.
I'll finish now! - I exclaimed and tried to push the girl away from the groin, but she pushed my hand away, continuing to manipulate the member just the same professionally. Yulka has talent! It was evident that she was trying, doing everything diligently, and, most importantly, she really liked the process herself. She sometimes even squinted with pleasure.
And I exploded! Right in the lips of a sexy girl!
Ay! - Julia exclaimed in surprise and pulled away, hiding from my splashes with her hand. Nevertheless, the first batch was already in her mouth, the rest hung on her arm, a couple of drops ended up on her cheek and hair.
Wow, nothing like that! Tasty!
With these words, she jumped up, grabbed the thrown towel and rushed to the door. Having opened them, she turned around, being the embodiment of harmony, elegance and sex appeal:
I avenged you for the night. - Julia smiled dazzlingly and slipped out while I was rising on the sofa. From the corridor I heard her gentle voice:
I'm going already. Now I'm going to fix my hair...
Fool! - yelled my daughter from the bathroom. - You're just carrying a towel, and not going to a party!
I collapsed onto the sofa. That's so surreal!
And yes! More often pretty girls so revenge!
For two days there was neither a rumor nor a spirit from Yulka. I toiled, walked around the apartment, thinking about what I would say to her when we met. I was going to explain to her that I could not build any kind of relationship, then I was going to confess my love and that I could not live without her. Her flexible figure stood before her eyes all the time ....
And here I am, as usual, returning home. Even on the stairs, I smelled Yulia's perfume. My heart jumped so hard it almost jumped out.
Yulia and her daughter were in the kitchen.
Hello daddy. The daughter looked out of the kitchen for a moment. Behind her, I immediately noticed Yulia's slender figure.
Hello, Uncle Vlad, - as if nothing had happened, the girl waved her hand. Today she was wearing jeans and a fitted blouse. And even bare fingers peeking out from under the hem of blue jeans could drive you crazy. I felt my groin become tight. However, I jokingly called out as I went to the bedroom to change.
So! Prepare for me too! Will my daughter poison me? And she rarely cooks!
Uncle Vlad! And I cooked potatoes! - I heard a sonorous voice, and my penis increased in size.
Well, all to me Khan!
I almost didn't joke...
I was standing in my shorts when the door opened. Turning around, I saw Julia. She, gracefully stepping bare feet on the carpet, came up and, smiling mockingly, put her hand on her underpants, on the very place that was pretty swollen.
I shuddered at the caress and impulsively attracted slender body to himself, trying to squeeze him with all the roundness into himself. However, Julia pushed me away.
Do you think today will be like yesterday? Well, I do not. Today I forbid you to touch me... Uncle Vlad.
Julia smiled a little mockingly, looking at my bewildered face.
Without hands, - she repeated and began to stroke my cock through her panties. You must earn the privilege of touching me.
How to deserve?
I don't know, think for yourself. Do you think so well?
After a couple of seconds, the head was already sticking out above the elastic, but Yulia, as if not noticing this, continued to stroke the trunk. Finally, she abruptly withdrew her hand, leaving me with a sharp sense of dissatisfaction.
Well, - the girl giggled, - I hope this helps thinking!
Her blond head bent over my cock. I felt a light touch of tender lips, and the next moment Yulia ran out of the room.
While we ate, I stealthily watched Yulia, enjoying her graceful figure, the strip of her belly over her low-cut jeans, the hollow between her breasts in the neckline of her blouse. It was torture. I wanted to fill up the girl, rip off her jeans and burst into her with my thirsty, red-hot nature.
Finally, my daughter jumped up from the table:
I'm all running to the dance!
What other dances?
Well, dad, I told you yesterday that I signed up for a ballroom dance studio! Yes, and more, Yulia promised to wash the dishes.
Girlfriends kissed, and we were left alone. Yulia looked into my eyes, reading all the intensity of my passion in them, and slowly shook her finger raised in front of her face.
I picked up:
I will come now.
Julia was already standing near the sink, giving me the opportunity to admire the elastic buttocks.
Uncle Vlad. If you are after flowers, then it is better not to. Maybe later.
Julia didn't even turn around.
Damn, how long will this girl bully me?
I walked over and hugged her from behind, lowering one hand immediately and grabbing the girl by the crotch, and with the other hand squeezing her tight breasts.
Oh ... - Julia breathed languidly. - Vlad, I’m telling you .. Oooh ... no hands ... Oo - mmm ...
I had already penetrated the neckline of the blouse, under the bra, and crushed my chest, feeling the silkiness and smoothness of the skin. At the same time, I whispered to the girl how beautiful, sexy, stunning she is. Gradually Julia relaxed, threw her head on my shoulder, substituting her pink ear for my gentle whispers.
I found the zipper lock and pulled it down. The girl tried to block me by placing her fingers over my palm. But I strongly squeezed the swollen nipple, Julia groaned and she directed my hand down.
I quickly ripped my jeans off my slender legs. A delightful sight met my eyes. Tanned ass in mini shorts, crossing out tanned skin with thin stripes...
Hurriedly lowering my pants, I again clung to the girl from the back, squeezing her breasts, and with the other hand, groping through the wet thin fabric sex lips. My cock settled comfortably in the hollow of elastic buttocks, and I tried to cling to the delicious roundness harder.
No hands? - I asked, feeling how the girl trembles with her whole body when I strongly squeezed her between her legs or pushed the fabric with a finger into her pussy. - Isn't it necessary?
Oh-oh-oh, Vlad, please!
And I could no longer resist mutual desire. Sliding the strip to the side, I put the swollen head to the current pussy.
Oh please! - Yulka groaned, and then leaned over, put her hand between her legs and, grabbing my penis, directed it into herself.
Feeling how my head falls into the tender sweet depth, I sharply kicked my hips, planting the girl on the balls. Like this! Once again! So that boobs in an open blouse fly up to the chin!
I fucked a submissive body, then bending the girl so that she lay her breasts on the sink, then forcing her to straighten up to squeeze her breasts so that the girl screamed.
When I, out of breath, took a break, Julia moved herself, sliding along the entire length of the penis and slightly swaying her hips from side to side.
I could hardly restrain myself when the girl suddenly moved very quickly, sitting down on my penis with all her might, and then she thrashed and screamed.
My penis experienced the incomparable caress of a shrinking vagina, and I, roaring, descended into the sweet shrinking depth.
Oh, mom ... - Yulia groaned when I got out of her. - I'm about to fall! Dizzy. I picked her up in my arms and carried her into the bath, feeling my sperm flow out of Yulia and plop down on the linoleum.
First we wash, then we continue!
Are you going to fuck me some more? groaned the girl.
But how!
You are a maniac! I ended up in the same apartment with a maniac!
Julia leaned her head helplessly on my shoulder. Hmm, but there were no special objections!
In the bathroom, Yulka pretended to be very tired and strove to either fall or lean against the wall. I saw that she was fooling around, but diligently played along, grumbling that fuck such weak ones. Having received a wet sponge on her chest and shoulder, I washed her whole body, paying special attention to her breasts, ass, pussy.
Julia kicked back, indignant at the fact that I only wash these parts of the body ...
I want in my arms - and in the bedroom! - said Yulka, after she looked at the process of washing my penis with noticeable interest.
Listen, my queen.
I picked up my slender, lithe body in my arms and carried my precious burden into the bedroom.
Here I was told that I should not dare to put the washed body on the floor, but threw back the sheet and laid it on the sheets. With sin in half, I did it. Julia dangled her legs, crawled on her hands, in general, did everything to make my task difficult.
Finally, I arranged the body of the goddess, which again began to excite me, on the bed and immediately began to kiss the breasts, exquisitely rounded and girlishly elastic. When Yulia was lying, her hard big nipples looked exactly at the ceiling. I started with them. Yulka at first tried to resist, muttering, “You already got everything today. What else do you need?"
However, as my lips gradually went down, her words became less and less legible, and the resistance gradually turned into a submission stage. She still tried to cover herself with her palm, without making any attempt to move her spread legs, but I gently moved my hand away.
When my mouth covered her wet tender petals, she pressed my head between her legs. I sucked her lips, caressed her tongue, trying to go as deep as possible. The reward for my labors was the groans and shudders of a luxurious body. Everything between my legs was already swollen to a critical size, I did not resist when Yulia groaned:
Vlad, I don't want this, come to me...
I lay down on the girl. She immediately attracted me, we merged into some kind of crazy kiss, and Yulia's hand played with my penis. Then, by itself, he turned out to be opposite her pussy, and, without ceremony, I drove my hard dick into her.
In my opinion, she finished after a couple of frictions. She screamed, wrapped her arms and legs around me, pressing her whole elastic body against me, and kept trying to sit deeper on the penis.
I wanted to fuck this body of a goddess, to hammer a member deeper, but I saw that the girl could hardly bear my hard rough blows. I had to moderate my ardor. But what did it cost me!
And Yulia took my face in her hands and, lightly touching her lips, began to kiss him. I could hardly restrain myself from continuing to knead my breasts and ass, but my nature demanded its own.
Will you do something for me? I asked stiffly.
Yes, Vlad, of course.
I got on my knees. Julia immediately understood what I wanted, and quickly turned around. My cock poked into plump lips. Then the mouth opened to swallow my enormously swollen crimson head.
Look at me.
Julia raised her face, not letting my cock out of her mouth. It was simply irresistible in this perspective. Such a cute face with a dick in her mouth...
Close your lips tighter.
I put my hand on the wonderful hair and began to have Yulia in my mouth. I was afraid that she would get tired, and I would not finish yet, but the lips still diligently covered the trunk with a ring, and her hands, lying on my hips, even slightly pushed me towards the girl.
Finally, I discharged right into my mouth. Julia diligently swallowed my cum while I ended violently and a lot.
I wearily sat down on the bed, and the girl immediately got up and began to lick my still hard cock. She did it with pleasure - smacking, sucking. Sometimes she rubbed her cheek against him until his cock fell off.
Julia made an offended face, sticking out her lower lip and raising her eyebrows like a house:
Oh. How small and wrinkled.
Then she picked up:
I'm going to look for my clothes. And then in 15 minutes your daughter will return. By the way, you still have to wash the dishes!
Oh, you little impudent one, - I exclaimed and rushed to her.
Yulka screeched and ran away, but I quickly caught her and wrapped her in my arms. We began to kiss gently, standing naked in the corridor. Then Yulia gently pulled away:
Stop doing it. Otherwise, your daughter will catch us copulating in the hallway.
And what? I'm nothing…
“Mom, can I go to Natasha today and spend the night with her?” - a similar question is heard sooner or later by almost all parents of teenage girls. He takes many by surprise: it turns out that the daughter is already, but a young girl. And secretly all night long with a girlfriend is much more interesting to her than with her mother. But before answering yes or no, let's see what other parents and children think about this, weigh the pros and cons.
Moms vs.
They can go to night club
Irina: “My daughter is 14 years old. Today she said that she would spend the night with a friend and return home the next day. There is nothing unusual about this, but a few days ago I overheard her talking to this friend and realized that they were going to go to a nightclub for a disco. The club is open until three in the morning. Where they will be until eight, when they will have to go to school, is unknown.”
It's not hygienic
Anna: “Sleeping somewhere else, except for your own home, is at least. My daughter has her own bed! And if she really wants to chat with her friend all night, let her better invite her to us. At least I'll be sure the girls are fed and looked after."
Too early
Svetlana: “At thirteen she spends the night with a friend, and at fourteen -? This is too early. If he finishes school, enters the university, then he will have a sip of a free life. Still, the eighth grade is not the age when the girl has a "head on her shoulders."
Daughter may try alcohol or drugs
Evgenia: “I'm not sure that the children will be supervised there. And neglect can inspire them to experiment with alcohol or worse ... My friend's daughter, after such nightly gatherings, became addicted to, and she is only fourteen!
Boys can visit girls
Maria: “My niece Yulia took time off to spend the night with a classmate. Closer to the night, guys from the senior classes came to visit them. Nothing bad happened, they just played games and surfed the internet, but some of the guys were smoking. When Yulia's mother found out about the presence of the guys, she was simply shocked. You never know what they could do with two eighth-graders ... "
Of course, sometimes such fears and objections are reasonable, and not everyone wants to let their daughter go to visit strangers without personal supervision. And even more so, you should be wary if the daughter flatly refuses to give the phone number of her friend's mother: perhaps they are going to have a fun party in the apartment at a time when the adults leave somewhere, or the daughter is going to go anywhere, but not to her friend. But if she herself runs after you: “Well, call Aunt Sveta, she already knows everything and doesn’t mind!” - then most likely you can be calm: the daughter does not hide anything from you, she just wants to keep secrets with her friend. By the way, these very “girlish secrets” are not empty chatter, but a necessary stage of growing up and socialization.
Moms for:
I met my friend's parents
Oksana: “When Katya was eleven, she first asked her friend for an overnight stay. I almost did not know the girl's parents, but we phoned, then met with her mother. She turned out wonderful woman. Of course, I let my daughter go with a calm heart. After a couple of years, the girls changed their interests, they began to communicate less often, but I am still on friendly terms with her mother.
My daughter has become more responsible
Anna: “I was very afraid to let my daughter go to a friend on the other side of the city, especially in the evening. But we agreed that she would call me immediately when she was there. And if earlier, when she went to a disco, she could easily forget to tell me that she had reached (“Mom, what should you worry about: the club is two steps away from home!”), Now she reacted to the request with seriousness and understanding . And in the morning she did not forget to tell me that she was already on her way to the bus stop. But I was even more surprised when she recently: “Just be sure to call when you get there!” My daughter has become more responsible."
Daughter is safe and interested
Olga: “I know my friend's parents. The girls spend the night in turn: either with them or with us. And they go not just to chat, but also to practice needlework or cooking. They either weave baubles or bake cookies for tea. And then, like all girls, they keep secrets. And in the morning, still sleepy, they share their impressions with us.
Daughter is more confident
Elena: “My Sveta is a little shy. Recently, at an art school, she met a girl and she almost immediately invited her to visit: at first just for a couple of hours, and soon for the whole night. At first, my daughter was very worried, but the next day she excitedly talked about her girlfriend and her older sister(she is studying to be a stylist), who did their makeup and even praised her daughter's figure. And now Sveta wants to participate in a school beauty contest, which she was afraid to even think about a month ago.
Daughter started cleaning up after herself.
Evgenia: “Until the age of sixteen, my daughter was almost, and I didn’t insist: classes in two foreign languages and basketball often didn’t even leave time to rest. But everything changed when her friend almost settled with us - they were preparing for the English Olympiad. Getting up from the table, a friend immediately rushed (and this is a guest!) To wash the dishes. When her daughter tried to stop her, she only grunted: “How, do you let your mother wash the dishes? What are you, five years old? Since then, Alena began to help me more often. ”
It would seem that this happens only in fairy tales: the daughter once spent the night with a friend - and changed into better side: became more independent and responsible. But that's right: coming to visit, and even more so - staying overnight, the girl has the opportunity to meet new people and their family culture. She is surprised at something, does not accept something, but all the time she compares: what about us, and what am I? And if she sees that she herself does not reach her girlfriend in some way, then she almost immediately tries to make up for it. So, maybe you should not deny your daughter the opportunity to learn something new, or even just have fun?
And here is what the girls themselves think about it:
Veronica, 16 years old:“My parents are against such overnight stays. Yes, I, in general, am not so strong and torn to my girlfriends. Except on holidays, and even then rarely.
Lena, 15 years old:“I got lucky with this. My girlfriend lives with me on the same staircase. So it didn't make much of a difference where to sleep. Although at first dad - he was old rules - was a little indignant that I was sleeping on the other side of the wall, then I got used to it.
Julia, 13 years old:"Hooray! Today I spend the night with a girlfriend, my ancestors let me go, which happens very, very rarely!
Zhenya, 17 years old:“I spend the night with a friend when she invites. Sometimes she stays with me. Here's the problem with the guy. They won't let him in."
Anya, 12 years old:“They let me spend the night with my girlfriend, but my older sister Svetka is not. She says that she will be with a friend, but she herself goes to the club. Mom told her: sleep at home, since she didn’t live up to her trust!
Ira, 11 years old:“Last week I spent the night at my girlfriend’s: until the night they were furious, as usual: pillow fights were arranged.”
Reaching adolescence, almost every girl asks her parents the same question: “Mom, can I stay with Masha visiting with overnight stay? Such questions of all parents are taken by surprise, because it turns out that their girl has already ceased to be a child and has imperceptibly turned into a young girl. And it is already much more interesting for her to trust her secrets not to her mother, but to chat all night about the secret with her friend. But before giving a categorical positive or negative answer to this question, it is worth weighing all the pros and cons. Here's what other moms and their daughters think about it.
Reasons why moms say no.
They may not stay at home, but go to a disco or a guys' campaign.
Anna: “My daughter is 14 years old and today she asked permission to stay spend the night at a girlfriend. At first glance, there is nothing wrong with this, but a few days earlier I heard their telephone conversation in which the girls discussed going to a nightclub, from the conversation of the girls I realized that this institution is open until 3 am and I had a question: “A where they will spend the rest of the night, because the next day at eight in the morning they should already be at school!
It's just not hygienic.
Irina:
« spend the night somewhere outside the walls of your house - this is, at least, not hygienic. My daughter has her own bed and if the girls really want to talk to each other, let them talk on the phone or let better girlfriend comes to us. At least I will be able to control their actions and provide comfortable conditions.”
It's still too early.
Evgeniya:
“My daughter is only 13 years old, so today she will remain spend the night at her girlfriend, and at 14 she wants to stay overnight at a guy's house? It's still too early for her. Let him finish school first, try to go to college, and then a free life will begin. Still, eighth grade students still don’t have a “head on their shoulders.”
The daughter may try cigarettes, alcohol and even drugs.
Svetlana “There is no certainty that my daughter will be supervised visiting strangers, and the lack of control can tempt girls into various experiments with alcohol, cigarettes, or something worse ... One of my girlfriends daughter started smoking at the age of 14 , and all after such night trips to visit!
The boys will also be there.
Marina:
“My niece Natasha somehow took time off from overnight stay to a classmate, it turned out that after a while, boys from the senior classes also came to her friend. The kids didn't do anything bad, they just surfed the internet and played games. computer games but one of the boys smoked. When Natasha's mother became aware of the presence of boys visiting, she was very excited. It is not known what the guys could do with two eighth graders ... "
Not every parent will happily let their daughter stay. spend the night visiting strangers, without personal supervision, such fears and concerns are well founded. You should be especially wary if the daughter refuses to leave her friend's home number or her mother's number. It may very well be that a noisy party is planned in the apartment in the absence of the girlfriend's parents. Or the girl intends to go anywhere, but definitely not to visit her friend. And if your daughter herself persuades you to call her girlfriend's mother, then you can safely trust your child - she is not trying to hide anything from you, she really wants to talk with her girlfriend. Seemingly empty talk "girl secrets" is a necessity for the timely maturation and socialization of your daughter.
Reasons why moms say yes.
Our family is familiar with the parents of a friend.
Mayan:
“My daughter first asked to visit with overnight stay to his friend when she was eleven. At that time, I did not know the parents of that girl at all. But, I called her mother, later we met. She turned out to be a very decent woman. And then I, with a calm soul, began to let my girl go to their home. Two years have passed, the girls have new interests that they did not share, gradually their friendship came to naught, but with their mother ex girlfriend I'm still on friendly terms."
My daughter has become more responsible.
Olga:
“I didn’t want to let my daughter go to my friend late at night, besides, she lives on the other side of the city. But we agreed that as soon as she arrives at the place, she will immediately call me from her friend's home phone. Previously, as soon as she received permission to go to a nightclub, she immediately forgot about everything in the world, including calling me and letting me know that she got there. But this time she took my request with understanding and all seriousness. Even in the morning she called and told me that she was already on her way to school. And what was my surprise when she recently told her older sister: “Only when you get there, be sure to call your mother,” my girl became very responsible.
My daughter is interested and safe.
Christina:
“I know the parents of my daughter's friend. Girls often stay with overnight stay either at our house or at theirs. They stay not only to socialize, but also to practice cooking or artistic creativity. They can bake something for tea or cut and sew something. Well, of course, like all girls of their age, they love to keep secrets, and in the morning, when they disperse, they share their impressions with their parents.
The daughter gains self-confidence.
Elena:
“My Julia is a shy girl. She visits art school several times a week, where she made a friend who often began to invite my daughter to visit her for several hours, and once invited me to stay with overnight stay. Julia was very embarrassed at first, but when she returned home the next day, she was overwhelmed with emotions, she was very impressed and told us about her friend and about her sister, who dreams of becoming a stylist in the future, she did her daughter's makeup, hairstyle and praised my daughter's figure . Later, Yulia had a goal: to participate and win at the school beauty contest, some time ago she would never have had the courage to do this.
My daughter has learned to clean up after herself.
Albina: “My daughter is 16 years old, she is not at all used to doing housework, since I never insisted on this, wanting to give her the opportunity not to be distracted from her studies, she went in for sports and also went to additional classes in two foreign languages, she there was no time to rest. But one day everything changed, her close friend began to come to visit us often, over time she began to stay with overnight stay, the girls were preparing for the Olympics together German. While at our house, getting up from the table, she immediately began to wash the dishes after her, when my daughter tried to convince her not to do this, a friend replied: “Why does your mother always wash the dishes for you, are you a little one ?!” Since then, my girl has been doing household chores at home.”
It may seem that all these stories are somewhat far-fetched, it's just fiction - daughter spent the night visiting a friend and magically became responsible and independent. But there really is common sense in this: the girl comes to visit and stays there overnight, so she meets new people with different family traditions. This becomes a discovery for her, she begins to compare herself and her friend. And if it seems to her that in some way she is lagging behind her, then she strives to become better. So you need to think carefully about whether it is worth forbidding the child to develop, learn something new and just have fun.
And what do teenage girls themselves think about it:
Margarita, 16 years old:
“My parents categorically forbid me to spend the night with my friends. Yes, I myself am not particularly drawn to their home, I can go on a visit to the holiday, and even then only until the evening.
Veronica, 17 years old:
“My girlfriend and I are very lucky, we live on the same staircase and very often stay with each other with overnight stay. My conservative dad at first opposed me sleeping over the wall from my bed, but over time he came to terms with it.
Ira, 15 years old:
“Cool, today my parents let me go to a friend with overnight stay, they very rarely allow me to do this!”
Sasha, 17 years old:“I don’t have problems with my parents when I ask permission to stay spend the night with a friend, as well as with the fact that she stays with me, but they don’t let me go to the guy - this is a real problem.
Tanya, 12 years old:
“My mother calmly lets me go to visit a friend and even allows me to stay there for the night, but my older sister is forbidden to leave with overnight stay, her mother does not trust her, because her sister is not actually going to her friend, but to a disco.
Nastya, 11 years old:
"The other day spent the night at a friend's house, we had a pillow fight tournament, and then we watched a horror movie until late, alone in her room.
Children and overnight stays with friends: at what age can you let go, how to prepare and what parents need to remember - answers in our article.
Many children aspire to adult life, imitating older comrades and asking for time off for spending the night away from home. But parents often believe that the child should spend the night in his bed until adulthood.
It would be wrong to advise how to with a light heart let his offspring go to friends, and keep him under his wing until he enters the university and student life.
With teenagers it's quite difficult. : and they run to discos instead of gatherings in pajamas, and they get their first sexual experience, and they can get involved in alcohol. Parents of elementary school students have no less worries, but they still have a trusting relationship with their children.
At what age should a child be allowed to spend the night with friends
Children dream of spending the night with their friends, chatting about everything in the world, drinking their favorite juice and secretly eating up their parents' candy stocks. , sleep on an air mattress, secrets until the morning - this is the dream of every child. Although… Many people are not yet ready to be and do not want to say goodbye to their favorite plush animal even for one night.
Very difficult to name a specific age when the child can be allowed to spend the night with a friend. Some babies are really very attached to their room and bed, so they will feel uncomfortable. Then the games will not be a joy, and the memories after such an overnight stay will not be very pleasant.
When thinking about the age for the first overnight stay of a child with a friend, you need to take into account at least two factors: the level of trust in the family in which you release your offspring, and the degree of his independence.
Trust level
It is important to know that your child's friend and his parents are not a potential threat to your son or daughter. They will not endanger him or ignore his requests (problems).
To kid should be comfortable in the house where he decided to stay for the night. He should be able to go to an unfamiliar toilet or take a shower before going to bed without any. He should not be scared or uncomfortable.
The level of independence of the child
The child should definitely be comfortable in the house in which he stayed overnight. But this does not mean that the friend's parents should be responsible for tying shoelaces, bathing the child, reminding him several times that he needs to eat.
Galina Eremeeva, psychologist: “If you see that the child is not yet ready to spend the night at a party, let his friend spend the night in your house. Of course, this should happen by mutual prior agreement with the friend's parents. If your child is determined to spend the night at a party, and you agree to meet him halfway, explain to the parents of the host that your son or daughter may begin to feel sad at home - and you are ready to pick him up from the guests. But in that case, the next time should be postponed for a while.”.
The child must understand that can ask for help to the friend's parents, and they will help him, even if it is something very personal. If the child suddenly became scared at night or he was while everyone else was sleeping, then he should be able to keep himself busy with something until the family members wake up. You can give him a favorite book, toy or tablet with you.
What to do with kids at sleepover
The most obvious solution to keep the kids entertained at a sleepover is to turn on cartoons. Of course, parents want them to bring light, goodness and broaden their horizons.
We have made a selection of educational cartoons and films that are suitable for children of different ages.
If you are not a supporter of entertaining children at night with the help of different gadgets and cartoons, there is always an alternative - offer them an interesting game.
Sleepover games for children
Active games at night excite the child's psyche and it can be difficult to put the company to bed. It is better to prepare several options than to take the child and friends for the night, and they themselves will choose what the soul desires. Sleepover games for kids:
- pillow fight - whatever one may say, but children are unlikely to stand at attention all evening. So give them light little pillows and have a little fight, Let it happen with your participation than behind closed doors with everything that comes to hand;
- and puzzles
- assemble a lego constructor
- draw on a free theme or take
- make a short production of your favorite cartoon or fairy tale
