in general, I was almost 21, I met guys for no more than a week, then I ran away to calls, didn’t answer calls, didn’t even kiss anyone and was a girl. I, in response, dear, very pretty. Even they called me beautiful, in general, I was still not pretty, I constantly looked in the mirror, I really wanted to have sex and love to meet. I decided this summer, this should definitely happen. I liked him. I didn’t know him for the first year, he came to my house to fix the computer, during breaks we chatted, didn’t flirt a lot. He was 27. So he called me this summer and hinted that he likes me, that he wants to fill my evenings. and on the very first evening he invited me to his place, and I agreed, a fool, very naive and inexperienced, I thought, but she wouldn’t rape me. In general, he got me drunk and everything almost didn’t happen, I was already undressed and excited, drunk from two glasses of wine, only when I took off my panties and started to climb there with my fingers, I said that I was afraid because the girl was still, he was very surprised. apparently a sporting interest in me woke up (that’s a virgin), we started dating, I thought that he really liked me, that’s a fool, but he kept trying to drag me into bed, in general he didn’t take me anywhere and didn’t give anything, and he didn’t work anywhere. only he began to receive education (from the village he) taught him to kiss, he constantly climbed into his underpants, but this didn’t bother me either, I thought he was the only one there will be sex we really wanted to. We agreed that sex would only be a month later (I wanted to check it out), as a result, he took me for 2 weeks with his friends to the forest, to barbecues, not far from his house, he kind of lives at the end of the city, as in In general, his friends left, I drank too much, and instead of taking me home, he took me drunk to his apartment and took advantage of my condition there, I sobered up from pain, and he ran and insulted me that there was no blood, he deceived me .probably slept with someone in the entrance and you don’t remember, he said that my body was beautiful, I was in shock, and they began to obey him, in general, as a prostitute, he used me, I came to him 2 more times, everything is like in a dream, I don’t understand how after what I could come to him, only his voice was in my ears. as if under hypnosis, then I abandoned him, and I still don’t understand myself how I could not appreciate myself so much, how could I still come to him after everything, I really ashamed in front of myself, I feel dirty, I didn’t dream about this. What should I do? How to recover? Can I meet a normal guy and everything will be forgotten?
Good afternoon, dear forum users.
Another story happened a month ago ... At the end of May 2012.
Characters: OZHP, 22 years old, works in the financial department of some kind, graduates from a tower (lawyer), 7.5, perfect face, very well-groomed, feminine build, waist, buttocks, 2 breast sizes, very beautiful skin and dark long hair, height 163-165, if interested - I will send a photo in a personal, very beautiful ...
I'm 25, I look average, I dress well.
Acquaintance. In the evening I was walking home after work, I looked - there was a beautiful figure ahead, I accelerated, I came closer and opened it with some kind of question in the style of "boy or girl" (she was carrying a cage with a kitten). We talk sweetly for about five minutes on the topic of cats, we go together, then I suddenly turn to her with the question: “Are you, probably, a lawyer?”. She is surprised:
- How do you know?
— You have a strict dress and you wear glasses.)))
We laughed, then learned her name ... Another five minutes and we came to her house (it turned out that we are neighbors, my house is nearby). Offered to go coffee on Sunday, agreed.
On Sunday at six o'clock I go from the cinema, I call her. She is also going home, it turned out that she had not yet entered the train (we both live outside the Moscow Ring Road). I waited for her, went together, chatted for about 20 minutes, then walked her home, went to change clothes and we went to a chocolate shop, not far from the house. Almost all the time I told my social stories, about myself, about life, etc. She was almost always silent, it was not obviously boring, in itself a very silent person, closed and a little shy. It is not often that you meet such girls, so beautiful and shy at the same time. And free.))
After an hour of communication, he took her by the waist and hand, walked her to the house, where he unexpectedly kissed her on the lips without a hickey. She didn't expect it, but she was pleasantly surprised.
After a couple of days, he offered to go to the cinema, and agreed. We went to the cinema, hand in hand, talked a little there, tried to kiss passionately, to which I received: “You don’t need to kiss me.” Yes, and figs with you, I thought ... I just sat down to watch a movie, zero attention to her. Without saying a word, they left the cinema, after 15 meters she spoke:
- Are you offended?
- No
Well, I can see that I'm offended.
I smiled, took her hand and kissed her on the cheek.
“I wasn’t offended,” he said.
We went out onto the road, there were no cars for a long time, I caught it ... Tired of catching a car, I went up to her and hugged her, then kissed her passionately. Damn… I haven’t felt the pleasure of kissing for so long, really… Somehow, everything has become mechanical lately, and it’s so cool with her, so gentle and pleasant.))
Drove home, again a couple of kisses.
Four days later, he called her and offered the rolls to eat. Agreed immediately. There again, almost only I spoke, listened, hugs, kisses, access to the whole body except for underpants (and I didn’t just try it, because there were a lot of people in the institution).
He took me to the house (he didn’t take him to himself because of a neighbor who was present at home). A day later, I sent her an SMS for the first time: “I want to invite you to dinner. I cook myself." She: "Invite." Me: "I invite you. I'll be there at 8 today."
At eight I go for her ... It turns out - as always, she looks gorgeous, smells sweet, Short dress, black stockings, heels.
We eat at my place (damn, I cooked meat and salad for an hour and a half), we drink wine, we kiss. She says next to nothing.)
Then we move to watch a movie, drink wine, eat strawberries, I start stroking her legs, shoulders, I try to put her on the sofa, she doesn’t seem to mind ... But for the sake of appearance, she gets up and gets better ... The third time she just started kissing and my hand is already in her ... Then I undress ... She is in amazingly beautiful lace lingerie and black stockings, a well-groomed body, very beautiful ... Sex three times. At one o'clock in the morning he walked her home.
Beauty, as you know, is a terrible force, and so terrible that it scares off a potential connoisseur and admirer of it.
Have any of you, friends, tried to at least approach and meet a beautiful young lady on the street, in a store, at a party, in public place so that later you can meet face-to-face with her and take her unceremoniously? The answer is obvious - no. I'm talking about beauty, and not about Lena Miro and some lefty women in last year's mink sheepskin coats and overdressed tights, which you can tear off in the toilet, damn them.
Many of you are instinctively afraid of being sent in the direction of a steady direction in all possible directions of inclination. But this is a typical lady's spitting, a serious spitting, so to speak, with all the resulting snot in the direction of our dear male egoistic core, which we have repeatedly tested on ugly young ladies.
An ugly and dull person, as a rule, sends everyone away and for a long time, sometimes breaking down at the same time, and falling into embarrassment with her whole reddened physiognomy, and bulging eyes. She is simply ashamed to be undressed by a strong, handsome man who can see all her innate jambs and errors from crooked short legs to a stooped hairy back with warts. An ugly woman is such a serious psychotype of an individual who is completely calm, who is the most charming and attractive, a dull merry girl, office laughter, at least a top blogger who does not agree, and does not agree in life. She is a good mother, wife, mistress, even in bed she can be good and inexhaustibly insatiable, but ... she is ugly. Basically, we communicate with just such ladies, they surround us, they stand in a traffic jam with us, they ride with us in the subway, they point a finger at us - there he is Novikovsky, they are everywhere.
A beautiful girl, I must say, is never shy - she has something to show and how to show, she loves the presentation of her beautiful chiseled body and demonstrating her divine elastic forms to any man, especially the brave one who decides to take the first step towards a fairy tale. And this, I assure you, is really a fairy tale. Beauty always - for! This is the slogan of beauty, this is her style in life, it is not for nothing that she is beautiful.
We often observe when a beautiful spectacular princess walks arm in arm with some unreal vile freak, shooting around her eyes to unfamiliar strangers watching her - you and me. She shows what she is for! She shows with all her being that it is not necessary to bathe and complex from embarrassment and fear of being sent, but it is possible, and even necessary, to get to know her, a stunning beauty, easily. She doesn't mind, she's not that bipedal amoeba that always sends everyone away because of her stooped hairy back with warts. Or maybe, shooting at you with her eyes, the beauty wants you to finally clean the face with her of an unrealistically vile freak walking in the direction of sex, so that you just take her body and shamelessly use it in the back seat of your car, finally or finally? I wouldn't be surprised if that's exactly what she wants. Why does she need this freak when you are much prettier than him? But you take a steam bath, to take the first step - namely, the first step for divine beauty is extremely important, because beauty always waits for the moment and is not emitted until its first step - she is a princess.
She is beautiful and she suffers that no one ever approaches her, and does not get to know her. This is her most terrible complex, the complex of the beautiful and lonely. Therefore, the most beautiful girls always go to bastards and scoundrels, who take them themselves, because no one takes them because of the ridiculous stereotype of being sent; who treat them like gloves - not this beauty, but that one.
Female beauty is not only a terrible force, but also a heavy inhuman cross - to give out of hopelessness to the first daredevil, bastard and scoundrel who easily steps over all his barriers of courage.
Kill only beautiful girls, the rest - in the garden. Good luck, Mr Jeffersons!
Our grandmothers blushed at the word "blowjob", our mothers were proud if their first boyfriend was our dad, and we? What is the main principle of the girls of our generation? Modern girls from an early age begin to have sex, they are liberated in bed and rarely ashamed a large number partners.
Female chastity has been reduced to the principle of three dates: on two dates you are touchy, and on the third you can already give heat! For objectivity, I called girlfriends, friends and acquaintances. Feminine sincerity conquered me: it turned out that 6 out of 10 girls prefer not to pull rubber, but to pull it on a guy already on the second date. I assure you this decent girls! It turns out that free love is a sign of our time? To verify this, I went to women's forums and conducted a survey among peers. The girls admitted that they were not attracted to long walks with guys under the starry sky without kisses and sex, and even boasted how subtly they seduced men if they suddenly started to get dumb and did not immediately invite them to watch a movie, drink wine or pet Roger's puppy.
These answers of familiar and unfamiliar girls led me to the question: “Why modern girls so hurry to give the men? Is it promiscuity, the dictates of fashion, a way to overcome complexes, or a banal desire to love, mixed with the desire to find the very one, the only one, by a detailed study of the assortment of men? I believe that the reasons for this haste are related to the life experience and goals of the girls, and each age has its own reasons.
Girls aged 15-23 are just beginning to explore the world of men, they are not yet in a hurry to get married and are not ready to nurse children, but they want to live to the fullest, travel, receive expensive gifts, enjoy shopping and a beautiful male body. A man in this period of a girl's life is more likely a sponsor of a fun and carefree party. It is during these years that girls experiment most in bed, but not at all because they want to work up before the wedding, like guys. Young girls, trying to tie a man to themselves, make the main bet on sex. It seems to them that mastery in sex gives them an advantage in the high competition for a worthy rich man. After all, whatever one may say, all girls want to marry a successful male! True, at this age, marriage is seen by girls as a romantic fairy tale, in which they are assigned the role of a princess.
Girls 24-34 years old have already gained experience and have accumulated a desire to get married, which is becoming sharper and sharper. Closer to 30, girls become overgrown with anxiety that the peak of their beauty and demand ruthlessly tends to zero, you can’t linger, and since there is no time, therefore, spending it on coquetry and play is unproductive. The task becomes concrete: to immediately charm a man, caress and hook him on himself. This period is accompanied by the main question: when is he going to marry such a smart, beautiful and magical woman in bed? By the way, here the girls commit fatal mistake: their importunity confuses a man. A man is a gentle, timid and distrustful creature when he is led to marriage. A conservative man marries only when he understands that he is bad without this woman, and not when it is clear to him that he is well with this woman. It takes a lot of time to make a decision like that, and not “Fuck bang, look how cool I am! Run for the ring!" Such a determination of a girl scares a man even when he is mentally ready for marriage. But often a girl of 24-34 years old does not intend to wait. “Thank you,” she exclaims, “was already waiting! Wasting two more years of your precious youth on this?! Well, I do not!" And he sets off in search of a more accommodating man.
Women aged 35-45 yearn not so much for marriage as for the realization of their sexuality. Many men say: "A woman after 35 gives herself as if for the last time." Why female sexuality wakes up at this age - I don’t know: I’ll live to tell you). However, it is a woman of this age that you cannot put to bed with a running start. She will fool a man’s head, and twist her nose, and fill her price, which proves to us that the origins of female accessibility are far from the desire for sex. But what's the matter? Why than younger girl, the faster she jumps to the man in bed? The answer to this question I found in men. Most reported that rapid intimacy is common these days. Guys, rather, have doubts if a girl delays the moment of intimacy. Here are their explanations for this "strange" behavior: the girl is having her period, or she is growing her hair for hair removal, or undergoing treatment for sexually transmitted diseases. If sex does not shine, spoiled guys follow the principle: "I didn't give it and I don't need it, we'll find another." It turns out that by pleasing the guys, we girls are collectively knocking down our price in the bride market. Elderly men, though cynically, but honestly admit: "Oh, if in our time they gave us so easily, we would not get married at all."
Therefore, for a man, marriage is, first of all, regular sex. Men shamelessly take advantage of the high competition among girls, hence the craze civil marriage. A man overfed by sex is in no hurry to take responsibility for his wife, children and family. Men benefit from freedom in love, they instill it in society. We, women, this sexual revolution only humiliates and deprives of individual freedom. After all, the thesis “I didn’t give it and I don’t need it, we’ll find another” hangs like a sword of Damocles over every girl. And we, fools, try to give them, so as not to remain in proud, but sad loneliness! Men impose the rules of the game, women accept them, and society suffers: the institution of the family is dying.
You - a stranger. Sober. Or nearly sober. Voluntarily and unexpectedly! And these are not our fantasies, but the fruits of research by sexologists. It just happens to be a coincidence...
We have collected for you 23 very different and sometimes unexpected reasons that motivate women to give themselves to you. More precisely, not we collected, but American sexologists Cindy Beston and David Bass during long and painstaking surveys, as well as field research on the issue.
1. You smell right
Unfortunately, you cannot control this criterion in any way. Neither fashionable expensive perfume, nor a potion with whale sperm that you were sold under the guise of exciting pheromones will help. Sexologists have found that for most women, the natural smell of a man is fundamental when choosing a partner. Even appearance was relegated to the background (but men still turned out to be visuals: for them, the main criterion is the shape and symmetry of the partner’s face). Scientists suggest that in the process of evolution, women somehow learned to recognize men with complementary gene composition using their sense of smell.
During the experiment, forty men were analyzed for MHC, that is, the major histocompatibility complex (a region of the genome that initiates our body's immune response to viruses and harmful bacteria). Then, of these men, he wore one T-shirt for several days. Well, then the villainous scientists, who are very fond of such entertainment, forced the women - participants in the experiment - to sniff dirty clothes. The smells of men whose MHC was the most different from their own turned out to be the most attractive for women! The offspring from such partners would have the maximum set of protective genes. In further research, it turned out that in couples with a similar MHC, women are more likely to fantasize about other men and, as a result, are more likely to engage in adultery.
2. Are you neighbors or work in the same office?
Analyzing the dating history of 5,000 couples in the United States, scientists came to the conclusion that women are much more likely to agree to proposals for romantic date, if they come from a person with whom they have met regularly, but have not yet spoken. In other words, if your bright image, wandering to the cooler, is deposited in the mind of the girl as a friend, you have every chance of success. Even if she did not like you at first, she is already used to you and is ready to consider the most provocative proposals. This applies not only to people, but also to melodies and public characters. We tend to sympathize with what constantly appears in our environment.
3. You make eye contact with a stranger for more than a minute.
As a rule, this works flawlessly on romantic girls. Survey participants admitted that they agreed to spend a night of love with a stranger only because they were "hypnotized by his gaze." Sexologists conducted an experiment: several dozen couples revealed the intimate details of their lives to each other for half an hour, and then looked into their eyes for four minutes. More than half of the participants felt a strong attraction to their partners in the experiment, and two couples subsequently even got married.
4. Your height - from 184 to 195 cm
The second most important criterion for choosing a partner, which girls are guided by, is appearance. This is where growth plays a major role. Not too big, but above average. 80% of women called this “high-altitude” category attractive. Scientists believe that women perceive large men as the best protectors and earners. By the way, not only women. It is significant that, statistically, every 2 cm of growth adds several thousand dollars to the average annual salary. tall man subconsciously respect and promote colleagues at work, it is easier for him to communicate and create a pleasant impression of himself. He also shows less aggression on average: he does not need to prove his rights.
5. You are symmetrical
The same length and volume of the limbs, the shape of the eyes, the absence of scars or lameness. Biologically, symmetry means a small number of mutations in your genome (and therefore a small chance that hidden deformities or diseases that may appear in descendants are “hardwired” in your genes). If you do not have obvious scars or fracture marks, this indicates that you were quite dexterous or that you grew up in a supportive and safe environment from childhood (which you can probably provide for your children as well). In general, the next time a girl starts to reproach you for the lack of cubes on your stomach, draw her attention to how wonderfully symmetrical you are. Unless, of course, you're an oblique, one-legged hunchback. Then you still have to do the cubes.
6. You're V-shaped
Even better, if nature rewarded you with a classic V-shaped silhouette with wide shoulders and narrow hips. At the first opportunity, take off your shirt and enjoy the statistics: people of your type start e-learning earlier. Tim, they have more partners throughout their lives, it is they who cause fierce jealousy among husbands, since it is their women who most often choose their lovers. However, do not rush to emphasize your wonderful silhouette in the gym too much. According to the survey, the stereotype promoted by male fitness magazines is as far from the female ideal as anorexic fashion models are from the male. Most girls unequivocally stated that only slightly athletic bodies turn them on, and not grotesque bodybuilders.
7. You have a strong chin, a massive forehead, a wide lower jaw
A masculine face type is an irresistible magnet for women, as it indicates a high level of testosterone. The fact is that this hormone is responsible for the formation of the facial bones of the skull in adolescence. Only young men with extremely good health can afford an excess of it, since high level testosterone reduces immunity. Thus, a manly face means that its wearer is healthy as an ox and extremely sexually active. A curious fact: the owners of such faces attract women when they are in their most fertile phase. They become perfect lovers. However, for long-term relationships, ladies prefer men with more “childish” faces, since it is easier to get them to do household chores (take out the trash, for example), fidelity and care.
8. You speak in bass
In adolescence, the structure of the larynx begins to change dramatically in boys - their vocal cords become 60% longer than in girls, their voice becomes coarser. This process is again controlled by testosterone, and the more it is, the lower the voice is formed. By the way, a similar story happens, for example, with frogs. According to the timbre of croaking, females choose the largest and healthiest males.
9. You move and sit like a dominant male.
Every second you're in the company of other people, your body language gives you away. American scientists observed the behavior of bar visitors and found that there is a certain pattern of behavior characteristic of men who more often than others established contacts with women. Here's what they did:
- a short direct look into the eyes;
- more "space maximizing" movements, such as stretching;
- more travel;
- more patronizing touches to other men (for example, a pat on the back);
- fewer closed poses (with crossed legs or arms).
This behavior indicates that you feel free and dominate the territory. But be careful with these tricks at work! Especially in relation to the authorities. Too obvious claims to dominance can cause bewilderment, discomfort and a desire to put you in your place.
10. You are confident and know how to joke
With physics, everything is clear. But what about moral qualities? Most women interviewed by American sexologists name only two character traits that they consider sexy: confidence and a sense of humor. From a biological point of view, this is easily explained. A self-confident man is perceived as dominant, and therefore the most desirable. In addition, confidence is evidence that you already have experience of successful social adaptation and previous relationships.
A sense of humor, in turn, also indicates confidence (to tell a joke is always to attract attention), a developed intellect, a high degree of socialization and empathy, that is, the ability to empathize (after all, to make fun of something means to feel and understand). Since humans are extremely social animals, these qualities are very important and attractive to us, especially in long-term relationships. In surveys of sexologists, girls admitted that very often the first wonderful impression of the "man of their erotic dreams" was completely spoiled when he started talking. And vice versa: a person who at first glance caused a sharp dislike, after a fun evening in his company, suddenly seemed incredibly sexy.
Having lived in a big city for a long time and having the opportunity to study human habits, I have repeatedly observed cases of the so-called “falconry”. Its essence is that men for dating girls unite in a tandem "prominent, but quiet + nondescript, but witty." "Falcon" approaches a couple of girls and easily captures their attention, as the girls are stunned by his physique. Then the "talker" gets down to business. The booty is fairly divided in half
11. You came with your friends
In mammals and even fish, there is such a thing as copying the choice of other females. It is evolutionarily easier to rely on the collective unconscious, to share risks with others, than to be first and bear full responsibility. Thus, if a man has had many women, if he is constantly surrounded by beauties, this automatically increases his attractiveness for the following partners. It is curious that in reverse side this law does not work.
Sexologists conducted such an experiment: women and men were shown photographs of the same representatives of the opposite sex, first surrounded by friends, then surrounded by girlfriends and just alone. Participants in the experiment were asked to rate the sexuality of the person in the photo on a ten-point scale. Women gave the highest ratings to a man surrounded by other women (especially if they were beautiful), they liked a man with friends slightly less, even less - "a lonely cowboy". Representatives of the stronger sex did exactly the opposite. They gave the highest marks to the single lady. The girl with cheerful girlfriends was put in second place. And a woman surrounded by potential rivals seemed completely unattractive to them.
