I really want to live, but I don’t know where to get the strength for it. The third year some continuous depression. I thought it would pass, such an age ... But the last two months I have seriously thought about suicide. Rather, the plan has long been ready, and now the expectation of that "last drop". I sleep a lot (always tired), I cry almost every evening, I avoid friends, my interest in studies has been lost, because of passes I should be expelled from the university. After all, life should not end there !? I can’t imagine how to look into the eyes of my parents later, they are already disappointed in me. This is the hardest, I can’t become someone else for them. Everything could be dealt with, survived, replayed if they supported me even a little. Instead, sheer criticism, discontent, and sometimes humiliation, because of which self-esteem, as they say, is lower than the plinth. And I would like to perceive everything not so sharply, but it does not work out.
  I understand perfectly well that suicide is not an option. I really want to deal with this, but I don’t know how to ask for help. How to tell parents that I need the help of a specialist ???
  We were never close, I never shared anything personal with them. For them now the most important thing is that I study well. Turning somewhere without their knowledge is unlikely to succeed. The capital ... you need to pay for everything, and the participation of the closest people I need. I want to forget about everything as a nightmare ... But why fight, if you can just leave?
  I don’t know how to survive the next month, how to get rid of this guilt, heartache, which leads to tantrums and seems to tear from the inside. I am ashamed of this weakness ... Look, people have real problems, but I’m sobbing unclear because of what. I just don’t understand why everything is so complicated.

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Olya, age: 05/18/2011

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Olga, consult our experts on the forum, in the section on depression. They will tell you the address and where you can get free qualified help. Do not aggravate your condition with anxieties about treatment, but just heal a little, everything will pass.

Agniya Lvovna, age: 70 / May 22, 2011

I understand your condition, Olya. A wave of depression often rolls over me too that I don’t want to live. And what often happens for no apparent reason. What can I say! Probably, now life is like this: every second inhabitant of the planet is depressed and prone to suicide. In my teens and in my student years my parents did not understand me either and demanded that I study well, to marry a rich man (even if he beats you, but we we’ll do everything with money, that was their position). Now they seem to be beginning to understand me, but nevertheless I also went through misunderstanding on the part of people, through their selfishness, and sometimes cruelty. Do not rush to think about suicide. cheat. Try to get distracted as much as possible, don’t mother that someone misunderstands you. Live for your own sake. Your parents, although they demand good study from you, but despite not really saying so close your relationship, you are really dear to them! Believe me! You still have to live and live. You will have a lot of interesting things to do in life. Now everything seems to you in the dark, but, believe me, it will pass. Do not be discouraged, do not despair. The devil is not so terrible as he is painted! That is, in life, not everything is as bad as it sometimes seems to us. Endure this period of your life. Everything will work out. Good luck, Olya, and patience!

Aigul, age: 34 / 05.22.2011

Hello, hello. Olenka, please listen carefully. There is no fault on you, do not invent what is not. You’re just afraid to tell your parents. And this is sometimes confused.
  If your parents criticize, then you are not indifferent to them. Do not be afraid - you need to be able to listen to criticism carefully, in order to take something useful for yourself from this. If your parents criticize (you can call it expressing dissatisfaction) - then you have normal parents, who are not indifferent to you. But when it’s the other way around, it’s really unpleasant for a person here. And you just tell them how you love them, say it more often, hug. They definitely love you.
  And about the psychological help. Well, you have already reached the age of majority - it will turn out to turn, you can call the psychological assistance service. There, they will help you figure out the situation, plus our feedback, they can give the address of the psychological center. If there you will have to pay, it’s not very much, with us, for example, it’s like your pocket.
  You can dig it up - the matter is about your peace of mind.
  In the meantime, get acquainted with this site, read, go to the forum. There are very good and competent people, they helped a lot in situations worse.
  God bless you.

Nelly, age: May 29 / May 22, 2011

Hello, Olya.
   There is nothing shameful about this. Well done, that you do not give up and are looking for help. In fact, we are all weak. We all live and try to build something from ourselves, but in fact we live and breathe according to God's will.
   Ol, you know very well that you can’t leave your life without permission. Because it is a direct road to hell. You cannot even pray for such people in the church.
   Olya, all the trials in this life, happen to us according to the will of God. And He will surely give you the strength to overcome them. Do not be afraid to seek a specialist to help you. There is nothing to be ashamed of. Once, I remember myself treating similar people, which I do not regret, but the Orthodox faith really helped and helps me.
   Olya. Pray to God - He has all the power! And be patient! Everything is erased, everything passes. Our life is in strips. Try to help others who are also difficult. And you should feel better.
   Believe, Olya, everything will work out!

Sergey K, age: 05/28/2011

Perhaps you are a teenage girl who has a first boyfriend, or maybe you are a little older, but you still find it difficult to share news about your relationship with your loved ones. In any case, the need to notify parents that you have a boyfriend can be very scary, but if you approach this issue correctly, it is likely that they will normally respond to such news. If all goes well, they might even be happy for you. In this article, you will find some tips to help you tell your parents that you have a boyfriend. Use these recommendations to avoid negative reactions from your loved ones.

Steps

Gently tell your parents the news

Record your speech.  If you are afraid, you will most likely be worried, so write down what you are about to say. So you will have the opportunity to think carefully about your words and how best to present the news about new relationships. Thanks to this, you can calmly inform your parents that you have a boyfriend.

• Think about what your parents will answer in order to know what to answer to their possible remarks about the guy.

1. Rehearse your speech.  There is a possibility that you will be confused during a conversation. Therefore, it is better to rehearse your words. Ask a friend or close relative for help.

   Decide who to tell about this first. Perhaps you have a closer and trusting relationship with one of your parents, or one of them is more loyal to you. It is very likely that by telling the news to the parent, with whom it is easier for you to communicate, you will be able to facilitate the conversation with those with whom to talk, in your opinion, is much more difficult.

   • For example, if you are a “father’s daughter” and you can easily find a common language with him, you can talk with your father first. On the other hand, if your dad is very strict, tell your mom about everything to begin with by finding an ally in her face.
   • This approach can be especially useful if you are a teenage girl with a first boyfriend.
   • On the other hand, if you are sure that your parents will perceive the news equally well (or badly), just let both parents know at the same time.

2. Choose the right time.  You should not share news with parents when they are busy with something or in a bad mood. You can ask your parents when it will be convenient for them to talk with you. Choose the right time when the house is calm, your parents are not busy with anything, and are in a good mood.

   • Nevertheless, do not postpone the conversation, constantly justifying itself by the fact that now is the wrong time. In any case, you will have to inform your parents about this.

3. Analyze your feelings.  Think about why you are in no hurry to tell your parents about your feelings. Do you think your parents will be furious because you started dating a young man? Perhaps you think your parents will not like this young man. Or maybe you do not want to let anyone into your personal life. By analyzing your feelings, you can properly build a conversation with your parents.

   • For example, if your parents think that you are not yet ready for a relationship, you can say: “Mom and Dad, I need to talk with you about something. I know, you think that I’m not yet ready for a relationship, so I doubted whether you should say that I have a boyfriend. ”

4. Put a point.  When you are ready to tell your parents the news, do it as soon as possible to dot all the “ands”. Do not beat around the bush. Nevertheless, the situation can be defused. For example, say: “I love you very much and do not want you to be upset because of me. In addition, I do not want to hide anything from you. I want to tell you about the boy I started dating. ”

   Tell your parents that you are ready to date a guy. Of course, you will need to provide arguments in favor of your statement. For example, maybe you are a high school student, and all your classmates are already dating boys. Be prudent and don't be angry if your parents disagree with you.

   • It will probably not be the best argument for your parents if you say, “All my classmates are already dating guys!” Nevertheless, you can offer your parents statistics from the Internet that show the average age of young people when they start dating. Also, mention the case when you have shown maturity recently.

5. Be prepared to negotiate.  If your parents still stand their ground, be prepared to compromise. It may be better to offer parents that you will only meet with your young man at school or will not be left alone with him, communicating only in the presence of other people. Your parents want to protect you, so be prepared to sacrifice your freedom.

   • Listen carefully to your parents and consider whether their concerns are valid. Listening to the words of your parents can be difficult, but remember that they are older than you and they have more experience. Parents are able to discern dangerous signs where we children sometimes do not notice. If they are worried about something, it’s probably worth listening to them.

6. Tell us about your boyfriend.  Tell your parents about the young man you like. Also tell us about his family and what you like about him. Focus on its positive qualities to gain parental approval. In addition, you can show a photo of the boy you like.

   • Your parents will probably have a lot of questions. Answer all questions honestly, giving full information regarding your relationship. If you try to hide something or lie, it can cause unnecessary suspicion and irritation.
   • If your boyfriend has a good relationship with his family, mention this in a conversation with your parents. This is an absolute plus for many parents, because it allows them to understand that this young man knows how to value other people and respects family ties.

7. Do not try to withhold information.  It is very important that you honestly tell your parents about your relationship. If they learn about your relationship from someone else, most likely they will decide that you are hiding the truth from them and withholding from them what they need to know.

   • Be sure to tell your parents about your boyfriend, even if you do not plan to introduce him to them soon. The sooner you tell your parents about it, the better. If you put off the conversation until later, you will only make it worse. In addition, parents can learn about your relationship from someone else.
   • If you are already an adult girl and do not live with your parents, there is no need to inform them that you have a boyfriend whenever you meet a new young man. Do this when you are confident in the seriousness of your relationship.

8. Keep in mind - your parents may be upset.  If you go against the views of your parents, your words and actions may upset them. Be prepared for anger and tears, this may be the first reaction of your parents.

   Be prepared to take time.  Your parents will need time to realize and accept what happened. If your parents are upset and say that you may not even think about relationships, they may change their minds later when the emotions subside. In any case, you need to maintain a good relationship with your parents. Do not spoil your relationship with them just because they told you no.

If you need to report gay

Choose the right time.  A difficult conversation awaits you, especially if you don’t know what your parents think about it. You should feel comfortable enough to discuss this matter. Perhaps your parents will begin to convince you of the fallacy of your views. Listen to them - maybe they are right.

• If you are insecure, then your parents will most likely ask you, “Are you sure?” You will act wisely if you discuss this issue with them; It’s important for them to understand how strong your feelings are. Perhaps you are not completely sure about this. Despite the fact that you now like a guy, there is a possibility that then you will fall in love with a beautiful girl. Sexual orientation may change over time.

1. Talk to someone who is gay.  Before talking with your parents about your orientation, talk with someone who can understand your feelings. This will make it easier for you to talk with your parents. This person can give you some advice. The main thing is that you trust this person.

   Give parents the facts.  If you want to convince your parents, give them facts about homosexuality. You can find a lot of information about this on the Internet.

   Give them time. Many parents need time to get used to this fact. The thing is that parents want their child to be like everyone else. Not every adult is pleased to realize that their child is unconventional. It takes time to come to terms with this fact.

   • Say: “I know this is big news for you, and I understand that you need time to accept this fact. But I know what I'm doing. "

2. Be prepared for the most unpleasant consequences.  If you are sure that your parents will not respond well to your news because of personal beliefs, you should think carefully before informing your parents about it. The consequences can be disastrous, parents can show strength or drive you out of the house. Not everyone approves of this behavior.

How to react if parents are categorically against your relationship

1. Listen to their doubts and comments.  Love, as you know, is blind and often closes our eyes even to the obvious. Perhaps your parents are simply overly concerned that you have a boyfriend, or they may have more serious reasons to believe that this guy is not your partner at all.

   • Politely and calmly ask your parents what they do not like about your boyfriend and why they do not approve of your choice. Perhaps they do not like the traits of his character, and this fear can really be justified. Even if it seems to you that their fears are unfounded, listen to your parents. This will help you provide convincing evidence that your relationship is the place to be.

2. Recognize their role.  Good parents will protect their child at all costs, so it is only natural that at first they will actively resist the fact that you have already grown up. Show a little patience and everything will fall into place. Also show compassion for your parents.

   • Along with compassion, you should be respectful when talking to your parents. No matter how the conversation goes, you should always respectfully talk with your parents. Even if you do not agree with their arguments, declare this absolutely calmly. A respectful attitude on your part will allow you to avoid unnecessary emotions, and, perhaps, parents will replace anger with mercy.

Lpyzh, 14 years old

I want to understand how I can hint to parents that it’s not only difficult for them ...

A couple of months ago, I already asked a question here, to which I received a clear answer. Then I was advised to consult a psychologist with my mother, they explained everything well, I was able to calm down for a while. The problem is that I did not describe everything that bothers me, because my question would be huge, and the thoughts in my head begin to get confused from all this. Another detail - my mother doesn’t really notice that it’s time for me to go to a psychologist, even after I said it almost directly. I think it will be clear why I can’t tell her directly: I’m afraid and don’t really want to talk to a psychologist live, just as I don’t want to tell my parents at all that it’s worth paying attention to my mental health.
  Well, my next problem is that I constantly "wander in the clouds." I already saw a lot of questions with the same problem, I think it’s pretty commonplace, but I can’t get out of this fantasy world, in which everything is terribly perfect, in which I’m not disgusted with myself. I’m just not interested in what is happening around me, I’m stuck in my fantasies and I can’t get out of them. I can’t go out and enjoy the beautiful nature, because I don’t see anything beautiful. It’s hard to surprise me, I’m constantly bored and sad, I can’t see anything good in things. Even when, it would seem, everything goes just fine - I do not care. Almost nothing pleases me, in my fantasies I idealize everything around me, even myself, maybe this is one of the reasons why everything is so gray for me now.
  I also care about the fact that I can’t show love and attention, I don’t like being touched, I don’t like hugging. Sometimes it seems to me that I can’t even love my parents, yes, I feel some kind of affection, but I can’t call it love. There is no closeness that I had before, at least with my mom (I doubt that I had any kind of intimacy with my dad). I want to just hide somewhere and not go out anymore. Although, I do not even go outside, which can be seen from my bruises under my eyes and pale skin that has not seen the sun for centuries. I can’t talk with my parents - we don’t understand each other. Absolutely. I can’t practically show sympathy and compassion, it’s very difficult for me to understand other people and start a conversation with them. Soon I will once again be transferred to a new school, I understand that it was my choice, but I also understand that there I will not be able to make friends.
In my last question, I mentioned not very good relations with my parents, that they are going to get a divorce. Mutual relations in our family have not become any better since then. Every day it only gets worse and harder. I have long dreamed of going somewhere far and long, but at the same time I feel selfish, because I have no brothers and sisters, I understand that acting in a way that is convenient only to me will be terrible, because all hopes are assigned on me. But I want at least someone to pity me at least once, and not to press me so that I pity him. I want someone to think at least once that I, too, can be bad and sad.
  So, to make the main point of my question more clear: I want to understand how I can hint to my parents that it’s not only difficult for them, that what they don’t see, how I cry doesn’t always mean that I don’t. How can I hint to them that I can’t control my aggression, and I can’t just open so easily and love all life. I do not want to talk to them about this topic, because for them I am "crazy." I am annoyed almost every day to hear what they call me that. I don’t want to talk to them about it, because any cautious attempt to start talking about it ends only with “I don’t understand you and I don’t know how to answer.” Then silence. I would like to see a psychologist, but even if I miraculously can get to him, I can’t talk to him, because I just don’t want to. It’s a lot easier for me to write, I don’t want to talk face to face. I don’t like serious conversations in private with anyone, so I almost always translate everything as a joke, I say with humor, irony or sarcasm, otherwise I can just cry, but I don’t want anyone to see it. I want to be helped already, I’m tired of enduring everything every day, I want to tell someone interested everything from the beginning to the end, but I don’t understand what options I have, given all of the above.

Psychologist Gleb

Hello, ski!
I'll start, maybe a little off topic. You perfectly manage to write, express your thoughts and feelings in the text! If you start from this observation, it turns out that you are a creative person, sensitive and reflective. One way to alleviate your suffering is understanding. Understanding what is happening to us or around us. So I wanted to talk a little bit about what is happening to you. Of course, this is only a version, moreover, frankly, it’s banal. What connects Your story together is called adolescence. It should be noted that at times this is a very nasty thing, despite all sorts of opportunities that open before us. Anyone who has experienced this can say that sometimes there was such pain and “porridge” from feelings, desires and doubts that I wanted to be somewhere at the edge of the world, away from everyone. But to be with someone - this is one of the main tasks of adolescence. Moreover, mom and dad do not fit this role at all, this is just the time when it all starts without them. Not in the sense that relations with them are not needed, but in the fact that someone new is needed - a peer. And here all our fears and anxieties wake up. Each one has their own, tension can arise in different parts of the relationship. If you think about Your embarrassment, then everything unfolds before they start, it’s hard to even imagine that you are telling someone something. But at the same time in your letter there is a great need to speak out and be heard. These two pages of the text tell me personally about your rich inner world, full of doubts, searches and, of course, discoveries, and I am sure that there is someone who can treat him with care and respect. I don’t know when this meeting will happen, but I know that it will happen. Surprisingly, in order for it to happen, you just need to let it happen. To smile or to joke, to look and not to turn away, to allow something to happen. I can’t say that everything magically happens, all kinds of cones happen, but on the whole they are not fatal and gradually you will begin to realize that this (communication) “doesn’t kill you” and even completely carries you away. Discovering another and discovering yourself is a wonderful pastime; you can spend your life on it.
Now to the bottom of your question. Speak as you are. No need to hint, wait for someone to understand something. If you need it, the algorithm is quite simple: you say what you need, you get the answer: “yes” - well, “no” - you are looking for another solution to the problem. Sorry to be so straight. Some things just need to be done. If you do not do them - this is also our choice. And one moment. The practice of providing psychological assistance to minors in state institutions is different. In some since 14 years old, self-circulation is possible.
  Good luck!

It is difficult for many women who recently found out about their “interesting” situation to report this news to even the closest people. How to tell parents about pregnancy, because their reaction to such a statement can not always be unambiguously enthusiastic. In most cases, pregnancy is a joyful moment in the life of expectant mothers and fathers, and for other relatives this also becomes a pleasant surprise. And how grandparents expect grandchildren! But not at all and not always everything is going well. Therefore, the reaction of the older generation to such a statement by the daughter or son may be the most unpredictable. Report that in the near future you expect replenishment in the family, it is possible in different ways, the main thing is to know the characteristics of the nature of your parents and anticipate their reaction, and you also need to take into account those life circumstances that preceded conception.

Traditional ways

The easiest way is when the pregnancy is long-awaited and planned, and you are sure that the news about it will incredibly please all relatives and friends. In this case, do not be shy, worry, but you need to say so directly, without any hint.

The place and time you choose yourself. You can do this at home in a narrow family circle. And you can call all your relatives and friends for a dinner party, and then, in the course of the conversation, solemnly declare to everyone that soon there will be a peanut in your family. And, of course, to propose together to celebrate such a significant event.

Traditional methods are always effective. If you do not like to be ordinary in your actions - it's time to show your imagination! It is the spectacularly presented news that will certainly make an incredible impression on future grandparents.

Treat parents with sweets designed with meaning

Original ways

Themed dinner party

Prepare a delicious dinner for your family and friends. Call the guests in advance so that everyone can attend. You can hint at the soon birth of the baby with the help of baking in the form of a children's envelope, or with the help of the dishes themselves and the ways of serving them - various vegetable and fruit purees, children's cutlery, children's bright and colorful serving. Pay attention to how the guests reacted and whether they understood the hint.

Small souvenirs will not leave anyone indifferent - caskets with baby accessories, key rings with rattles, etc. And when one of the guests offers you a drink, culturally refuse, arguing that alcohol is contraindicated in expectant mothers.

Give the participants of your dinner party souvenirs suggesting a pregnancy

Photo

If you have already visited ultrasound diagnostics and you have pictures on hand, you can beautifully arrange them and put them in a frame, and write next to them: “We will have a replenishment soon”. Present this collage by unexpectedly rushing to your parents for a cup of tea, or at a festive dinner when it comes to its logical conclusion.

You can announce your news at another family event, the main thing is that everyone be assembled. Invite family to take a family photo. And when you take pictures, instead of saying, as is customary, “Cheese!”, Say “I'm pregnant!” (You can pick up another phrase). The most curious thing is that in the photo you can capture the emotions of your loved ones, and this is priceless.

Make interesting pregnancy collages

T-shirts with inscriptions

Custom t-shirts can be ordered online. Order them for yourself and your spouse. You can, for example, draw on them a drawing of a peanut with the caption “Soon I will be a mom” or “That is how the future dad looks”. Come to a meeting with your family in these T-shirts - such a hint is unlikely to go unnoticed.

Come visit your parents in a T-shirt with a picture hinting at your pregnancy

On a family holiday

If the stars came together so that soon your mom or your dad will have a birthday, you can hint at pregnancy with a congratulation. For example, give a beautiful postcard that says “Congratulations to the future grandfather”, “After nine months, wait for your present”, etc.

Give mom (dad) a birthday card

Letter by mail

Make a copy of the ultrasound image, put it in a beautiful envelope. It is advisable to pre-wrap the picture in a piece of soft tissue resembling a baby diaper. Or you can write a message from the unborn child.

Send a telegram on behalf of the future grandson (granddaughter)

Video: reaction of parents to daughter’s pregnancy news

Unfortunately, not always and not for everyone, pregnancy is good news. It also happens that she does not fit into the plans of the future mother or family as a whole. What to do in this case?

There are no specific techniques or templates here. But psychologists give a number of recommendations that should be taken into account. With their help, you can present your news calmly and without causing a storm of emotions on the part of your opponent.

Pregnancy is not a life drama of universal proportions, but the most important event in the life of every woman. Even if the conception has not been planned, do not rush to chop off the shoulder and abandon the child, because life passes quickly, and you will always have the dearest and closest person.

Notifying your parents about this event is not so scary, it is important that they feel your sincerity. Do not be afraid to trust them. Now their advice and support is incredibly important to you.

• First of all, you need to be sure that you really want to have a baby, only then will your parents believe this;
• Choose the right time to chat. Such news is not whipped up;
• There is no need to hide something from your dad and mom - be honest;
• It is necessary to prepare for the conversation in advance, to think through all possible details and circumstances;
• No need to be afraid, tune in to positive emotions;
• Parents are the closest people, so you can and should consult with them;
• In such circumstances, you must make decisions in an adult way, your parents should see in them the position of an independent person who is aware of his actions;
• In no case should you show negative emotions - fill in tears, scream, throw tantrums, and even more so blame your loved ones for something. This will only aggravate the situation. The conversation should be calm, the speech should be confident;
• You can call a reputable lawyer to help you. Let your chosen one speak in his role, either his mom-dad, or your other relative (grandmother, aunt, sister) who can smooth out sharp corners and at the right moment direct the conversation in the right direction.

Teenage years

It is very difficult to tell parents about their pregnancy to a future mother, who herself did not become an adult. It's about teenage girls. But here, not everything is as scary as it seems at first glance.

Naturally, the most important role in this will be played by the relationship between you and your parents. You should not be of the opinion that the "ancestors" will immediately begin to scold you, they will not understand your position. It is impossible to hide pregnancy, and even more so from them.

Remember the immutable truth: your parents love you very much. This should be the starting point.

If you get along better with dad than with mom, let him know, and vice versa. Mom and Dad are the people closest and dearest to you, so they will always be with you, under any circumstances, and will certainly help in the fight against life's difficulties.

Serious conversation with parents

Calm, only calm! No need to give in to emotions, be as restrained as possible, because with all your appearance you must show that you are an adult independent person who is responsible for his actions and is ready to accept any reaction of his relatives. After you report pregnancy, give them some time to recover from the shock. All parents want to become grandparents. Yours just need to get used to the idea that their grandchildren will appear so soon.

Ask for help from a sister or brother

If your relationship with your brother or sister is very warm and trusting, you should tell them this news. You can ask them for moral support when talking with parents.

Hints

If you do not have the courage to have a serious conversation with your parents, try to subtly hint to them that you are having some difficulties. Spend a lot of time in your room, all behavior should talk about what you are experiencing. And when they notice such strange behavior, then it will be the most opportune moment to inform them that soon you will have a baby.

A note

When it is difficult to decide on a conversation, you can notify relatives about pregnancy in writing. The main idea that should be reflected in the note is your experiences and further action plan. When the parents read the note, it will be some time before the dialogue between you takes place, but it will be more calm.

Get your young man to talk

If your young man fully supports your position to maintain pregnancy and is ready to help in the future, it is a rational step to invite him to a conversation with his parents. With him you will feel much more confident, because you will feel his support. It is in your interaction that the success of all the difficulties associated with pregnancy in adolescence lies.

Video: how to report pregnancy to parents if the expectant mother is a teenager

Regardless of whether you are married or single, regardless of your age - mature or teenage, all parents are always overwhelmed with joy when their children tell them that soon there will be a replenishment in their family. But not all parents have this reaction immediately - some take time. So give them that time. And do not worry, you are categorically contraindicated in your position. Everything will turn out for you and everything will turn out, no matter how you inform your family about your new status. Above all, love the little man who lives there, inside, and your loved ones will love him just as they love you ....