Never call a guy yourself. What does the statistics say? What to do if a man does not call

March 5, 2018

When we fall in love, we grow wings, bearing at a frantic speed towards new feelings and emotions. Without thinking about anything, forgetting the rules of decency and expecting an immediate response, we sometimes destroy still fragile relationships.

Modern women have become so active that their behavior suppresses or discourages gentlemen. Not having time to get to know each other better, the ladies, without waiting for her lover's call, begin to break off the phone. Is it good or not? In this article, we will try to understand from the point of view of the psychology of relations whether it is worth calling a man first.

Can I call a man first?

This is a rather difficult question, since there is no consensus. Feminists are convinced that women have the same rights as men. Others recognize only the traditional approach, giving priority to the strong half. To understand whether it is possible to call the chosen one first, it is necessary to consider the problem from both sides.

The first group - those who do not consider such behavior appropriate - argues their position by sharing their personal experiences that “if I hadn’t decided to call, we wouldn’t be together now,” “he thought I didn’t like it, and if I hadn’t dialed his number, we would not have been married and happy. ”

Their opponents are convinced that men by nature are gambling hunters who must achieve everything themselves, including their chosen one, otherwise they will quickly lose interest. If we consider both positions as a whole, then both of them are right. It all depends on:

• on the nature of the man whom you are going to call (how he will react to such an initiative);
• specific situation;
• on how comfortable it is for you to do it yourself.

Active women have a life in which everything happens according to their will, since their chosen one was initially indecisive and passive. And for those who did not call, the man turned out to be the leader in the relationship. Unfortunately, at the beginning of an acquaintance it is difficult to understand what type your beloved belongs to. It should be based on previous experience.

Perhaps strong women, on a subconscious level, choose led guys or are so confident in their own abilities that they are used to taking a dominant position in everything. Well, if you are not one, then do not overpower yourself, but calmly wait for the call of someone who is not indifferent to you.

Each case is unique. Cavaliers who call first do not always become worthy candidates for husbands, and uninitiated ones are often not hopeless.

There are a number of reasons why you should not call a man first. If you ignore them, then this will not play in your favor. An unflattering impression can be made about you as a frivolous and annoying woman. But this will not lead to anything good.

If you want a normal relationship, you must follow these rules:

1. Do not persevere and excessive obsession. Do not dial the number indefinitely and be interested in his affairs. Be patient, wait for the next step.
2. If you are refused for some reason, do not humiliate yourself by persuading a man to meet. You won’t achieve anything with this behavior, but you can easily aggravate the situation.
3. Still decided to call the first? Try to position the object of your sighing for easy communication. You should never take the phone when you are in a bad mood. A man is unlikely to like it.
4. Do not call first if a friend did not give you your phone number. Not everyone will like this ladies initiative. He can simply decide that you are chasing him.
5. After a night spent together, the first call must be from a boyfriend. By expressing impatience, you risk losing his respect.
6. During the courtship, it is also not advisable to take the initiative, especially if you often see each other, but have not yet taken place as a full-fledged couple.
7. If you quarreled and the culprit of this trouble is a man - hold fast, let him take the first step.

In what cases can you still call a man

There is nothing wrong when a girl calls a guy first at his request. For example, when she is released, or for some reason he does not have your cherished numbers, and he gave you his phone number.

Should a woman be the first to call a man in other cases? Nobody can forbid ladies from doing this, but first carefully think over your speech and adhere to some recommendations, using harmless female tricks in order not to become a victim of an absurd situation:

• Come up with a convincing excuse containing a certain intrigue, telling the place and time. This may be an invitation to a football match. Speak confidently and decisively, without mumbling into the phone. As a rule, the proposal to spend time together is perceived by men positively. Of course, the probability of failure is present. If this happens, demonstrate your indifference by hinting that there are plenty of guys like him.
• Think of a problem that you cannot solve without his help. A man will be pleased to believe that they need him. You can simply consult on the operation of a computer or other equipment. If the response is not received, feel free to drop the phone - it certainly does not fit the role of life partner.

Your friend tried to take care of you for a long time, but did not wait for reciprocity? Decided to give the guy a second chance? In this situation, there is nothing reprehensible in the fact that you call him.

What if the man did not answer the call?

Your first meeting was a great success and gave hope for the further development of events, but the gentleman is not announced and does not pick up the phone. What does it mean? There are a number of reasons why a guy you like doesn't call you back.

Let's analyze the most common of them:

1. Trophy collecting.  Some men likewise try to amuse their ego or assert themselves in the eyes of their same insecure friends. They get acquainted with the girls, get her number, like a trophy, and disappear. These guys usually have a huge list of such contacts on their phone, like a kind of collection, or so, just in case, it suddenly comes in handy.
2. Vivid impressions.  A man is not going to establish a serious relationship at the moment, but gets acquainted with women for fun. He picks up the phone, being in a romantic mood, for a moment thinking that he needs a good woman, but soon realizes that he is not ready to give his heart to the one and only.
3. Politeness.  An intelligent person, by virtue of upbringing, cannot offend you, having immediately refused to continue the meeting. He thinks that taking the woman’s phone will do a noble deed, thereby making the girl pleasant.
4. Loss.  There is also a more banal explanation for the guy’s silence - the loss of a number or the breakdown of a mobile. Maybe he is not against continuing to meet.
5. He has another.  If a new acquaintance has a girlfriend or wife, it is unlikely that they will call you back. Your meeting for him was just a little flirt, no more.

What to do if the man himself has not been calling for a very long time?

What to do if the guy you like disappears from sight, and patiently sitting on the phone has no more strength? There may be plenty of reasons. To find out whether it is worth making plans for the future, find the right excuse and call yourself. This will allow us to determine the further development of relations by its intonation and content of the conversation.

If the conversation took place in a positive way, and the man does not call again for a long period, then perhaps he does not dare to offend with a direct refusal. There is no need to draw a tragedy in your imagination or look for flaws in yourself. Sincerely believe that you will meet the love of all life and it will definitely come to you.

Is it worth it to call a man after a quarrel if he does not call?

The cavalier unjustly offended you and take your time to rectify the situation. Is it worth it after a quarrel to call a man? Definitely not. Do this once and he will understand that you can twist as you like.

If a man really feels feelings, then, despite the temper, everything will weigh well and will certainly appear. And at the same time he will understand that such a number will not work with you.

If not, then your friend does not value the relationship enough, and found an excuse to break it off. Or maybe this is a manipulator person trying to subdue you. If the quarrel is your fault, then analyze how serious it is to stop communicating.

Why, some men, after a wonderful time together, suddenly disappear without explanation and do not make themselves felt. In men and women For all the arguments of the author Igor Chersky  gives own counterarguments.

1. If he does not call after meeting, it may well be that because of an overabundance of feelings, your phone was crookedly recorded, getting confused with the fingers in the numbers on the touch panel. Or he lost the napkin on which the number was written on the lipstick.

Igor Chersky: This is unlikely. A normal man can lose everything, but not the phone of the woman he likes. An exception is possible only if he got drunk before losing consciousness, but then this is most likely due to the appearance of the woman, and she simply is not in his taste.

2. Phones are still stealing. It is possible that the man’s mobile was so attractive that he was stolen. And now the handsome prince has no way to contact the beautiful princess.

Igor Chersky:If a man is not a rotos, his phones are rarely stolen, so the probability is also very low. Then he would use any other way to find you. For example, through social networks and dating service, where you found each other.

3. Your acquaintance was a mistake. Not in the sense that he regrets it very much, but simply does not remember that it happened (there may be completely different reasons for this). Therefore, dialing seven numbers that belong to an incomprehensible to whom is pointless.

Igor Chersky:  "Your acquaintance was a mistake ... he simply does not remember that it happened." The first statement is true, the second is not. The man just remembers that it was a mistake - and therefore does not call.

4. After some thought, the man decided that you are not his fate and Alena, with whom he broke up a week ago, is actually a woman of his life. Therefore, it is better to immediately disappear from the field of view and not stir up your soul with empty hopes (but you will keep the number anyway, suddenly break up with Alena again).

Igor Chersky:But it happens, yes. People are generally prone to moods and they always want different things.

5. Any man has friends. Usually there are a lot of them, and they have garages, children, fishing and footballs. And in minutes, the “friend needs” the whole world — including you — disappears and only the FRIEND remains, to which you must rush headlong and fasten the mirror to his jeep.

Igor Chersky:Helping a friend takes a maximum of a day. Well, two, and it happens three times a year. And the peasant does not call at all for no reason.

6. No matter how strong men are, they too may be offended and not feel like being the first to get in touch. Sometimes it’s not very clear what exactly a person might be offended, but if the silence becomes too sinister - it makes sense to call herself and find out what it is.

Igor Chersky:That is yes. In any case, this is better than suffering in the unknown and drop self-esteem, looking for flaws in yourself.

7. There are times when you don’t want to talk to anyone at all - be it a beautiful lady or a boss from work. I just want to stay in silence for at least a few days and not have any conversations.

Igor Chersky:  Golden words and thanks for understanding! And you never want to talk to the boss at all - it rarely ends well.

8. From the happiness that fell on his head in the form of you, he simply lost his speechlessness and cannot find words to call you and invite him to the next date.

Igor Chersky:  Do not flatter yourself. Happiness would have inspired him to poems, flowers and serenades, and not to death at all.

9. He died unexpectedly. It’s sad, of course, but it happens.

Igor Chersky: Just as sad. After all, now again it will take a long time to look for the normal.

10. Perhaps, for him, “picking up the phone” is a daily process, and the matter is not in quality, but in quantity. That is, you came across an ordinary pikaper who collects numbers, but is not going to call.

Igor Chersky:  I think there are no more women who don’t see a pikaper a mile away. The stupid set of identical phrases and the increased cheekiness with which he is trying to cover his complexes give the pickuper a chance to get acquainted only with completely inexperienced creatures. I will add three more reasons:
11. Something happened to the car. Everything is for a man, and if suddenly it does not start, the whole world fades around. He, of course, will call you, but first he will fix the car. If suddenly it happened otherwise, then it's just some unearthly passion for you, congratulations.

12. Sometimes a man does not call because he already had a similar thing a hundred times and he knows what will happen next. You have nothing to do with it and you can be an ideal, that’s not the point. By the way, if you are ideal, this is also bad, because everything impeccable is boring. You certainly should have some nice flaws that will arouse your sympathy, but about this I will write a separate article.

13. He was suddenly called by three of his previous women, two of whom he had already missed terribly. You always feel amazing when your ex is having someone. And when someone new just ascends to the horizon, all of you immediately appear. Well, just like that, how are you doing, nothing like that. And then point 4 may well come.

Lack of communication with a man in any case gives rise to questions and anxiety, but one must understand that if a couple has a future, then the opportunity to be alone is only for the better. In separation, you can evaluate your feelings for a partner and see a lot from the outside.

This problem did not worry our mothers too much and certainly did not arise in our grandmothers. "Why is he not calling?" - this is what became the main issue of modern girls who do not part with phones.

  Expectation

Each time you look at your phone in the hope of seeing at least a randomly missed call. You can tell him so much, you are ready to use all your charm, all your female "little things." And he will definitely be yours, that's just ... Well, why doesn’t he call?

Many girls ask themselves about this, whose hearts are broken by telephone silence. There can be many reasons for silence on the part of a man and it is worthwhile to understand them, because the lack of communication on the part of the stronger sex can be both final and temporary. We will answer the most common female questions.

  Why doesn’t a man call after dating?

After the first date or meeting, we all know that the guy should call first. If this does not happen, try to find out why. There are several reasons for a man’s reluctance to call after dating:

1. The first and most common reason is that the guy does not want to continue communication. This is not difficult to verify. Call him yourself and ask him to call back an hour after the conversation. If there is still no call, then you can be sure that you should not make plans with this guy for a joint future. Of course, pride doesn’t allow every girl to call the first one, so if you choose, you have to worry about expectations or find out everything within an hour.
2. Reason # 2 - the guy is too shy and shy. You can see such people at once: he speaks a little, is worried and blushes on the first date, hesitates to approach first. In this case, you probably have to take the initiative and make the first call yourself. Note to you: shy guys can later turn out to be real "lions" in a love relationship.
3. Many men are certain for some reason that it is a woman who should call after a meeting, showing interest thereby in continuing communication. You should find out in advance, for example, ask the guy directly what he thinks about this.

  Why does a man not want to call after an argument?

In fact, after a quarrel, not only a man may not want to call. And again, before us is the dilemma - who should call, and should he even? Many people think that the one who is to blame should call. This, of course, is true, but not always real. Do you like this guy, then boldly dial his number and start solving a conflict situation!

  Why hasn't a man been calling for a week?

Or maybe he is tired of relationships and he needs to be distracted and relax? There is such a category of men who need to be allowed to miss their beloved and then their passion is inflamed with renewed vigor.

There can be many reasons for a weekly lull on the other side of the phone, for example:

• A lot of work.
• Problems with relatives.
• Unforeseen trips or other circumstances.
• Phone numbers are erased, or mobile is completely lost, etc.

We will not lose sight of the fact that the guy simply may not want to call anymore, since he has found an occupation more interesting. Sadly, this also happens.

  Why does a man write sms instead of a call?

Many people prepare a conversation plan for a long time, come up with beautiful phrases, jokes, stories. But when communication begins, a person is lost from excitement and forgets all his “smart” speeches. Therefore, for many it is easier to write SMS than to risk being in an awkward position.

Some men do not like to talk a lot - this is another argument of the followers of SMS correspondence. And then, SMS is always an intrigue that will add a sense of sensation to your relationship.

  Why does not a man write and call every day?

Men do not understand why women constantly chat on the phone. For a guy, a phone call is a way to convey some effective information, but not feelings, so a strong half considers it difficult to call every day and even write.

Girls need maximum attention, and, oddly enough, this attention is always not enough. I’ll tell you, girls, it’s not necessary to demand daily chimes from a man, because the most valuable thing is feelings. Well, if you are so bored - call yourself back!

  Why doesn’t the man call after breaking up?

Now it’s fashionable to remain friends after breaking up. Often, having fled in love, couples become good friends. However, the desire to be friends with former lovers may not be mutual. A man is afraid to maintain friendly relations with former passions for a number of reasons:

• A man does not want a woman to try to return him and destroy his new relationship.
• The guy has a serious resentment for his former beloved.
• The man has not stopped loving yet and wants to return his soul mate.
• Relations were difficult, and parting was unpleasant.

So, to summarize. If the guy fell in love and your feelings are mutual, then do not bother about the fact that you talk a little on the phone. Better invite your loved one to some interesting place or arrange a romantic evening for him. I wish you often forget about the existence of a phone next to your loved one!

Good afternoon, dear readers! Many girls wonder what to do if a man does not call. Maybe he lost interest, heaped a lot of work on him, he found another. Let's try together to figure out what to do and how to be. Do not panic, do not impose and interest a man so that he will run on his heels.

The first thing you need to understand is don't get hysterical unless the guy calls you for two days or three. With your panic, you will only frighten away a man and he will think that you are somehow crazy. Exhale a little. Relax. And judiciously. Why can he not call? Maybe he told you that he will soon have an emergency at work, but you missed that moment. Or he should go on a business trip where he doesn’t catch the connection.

If there was nothing of the kind, then another question arises: is it worth calling the young man herself? Here the game begins with the motto "the less a woman we love ...", but it has a mutual character. Calling the first one is sometimes very worthwhile.

One of my clients met a young man on a dating site. They corresponded for a long time, but he did not show much initiative. Then I asked her: why would she not offer to phone? She was afraid to take this step first. Her upbringing said that a man should. I suggested she just try, and she agreed. In the next session, she thanked me for the hint. After all, thanks to her first step, they made an appointment.

Here, the main thing is to be able to stop in time and not start calling him every five minutes. In this case, you can easily get into the black list of contacts. Do you need it? This behavior is again due to your panic. You know, there are women who call their missus every half hour. I always have a question in such a situation: does she really have nothing else to do?

Panic makes it difficult to reason. When you calm down your emotions and become more calm, then you can take a sober look at the situation and understand that there is nothing wrong with the fact that the man does not call for a couple of days. Remember that men talk very differently on this topic. For them, constant telephone conversations are not as important as for women.

It is very important to love yourself and not allow a man to play with himself. If you revolve around him, do whatever he wants, run after him, and he has not called for two weeks, then think: do you need such a relationship. Remember that relationships are a reciprocal process. It should not be that you do everything alone.

If you suddenly stopped communicating for no apparent reason, do not fuss. Do not impose yourself and your communication. Go about your business, communicate with other people, work, find a hobby. Do not get hung up on the man. Otherwise, you will become addicted. And this does not allow you to build healthy relationships.

The first is to call yourself. Perhaps he has a difficult period at work and your call will help him.

In my opinion, the most correct act would be to call herself and find out if everything is in order. And then proceed in accordance with the situation.

If you do not find a place for yourself, suffer, constantly think about it, then I strongly advise you to read the article "What to do if you love." Perhaps there you will find interesting solutions for yourself.

To prevent such situations from happening to you, so that men always call you and seek your attention, you need to work on yourself. To begin, I recommend that you read the article "How to become a woman a mystery to men." There you will find many useful tips and ideas.

The problem of lack of attention in a long-term relationship is one of the most common. Girls usually complain that the beloved has stopped calling often, does not write more SMS’s. This is all fixable. You love each other. You just need to talk. Honestly and frankly.

Remember that men always try to avoid scandals and quarrels. Therefore, it is in your power to calmly talk to him. Do not raise your voice, do not shout at it. You are a normal, emotionally stable young lady who can speak reasonably and reasonably. Explain the situation on your part. And listen carefully to what he answers to you. Do not miss his words.

Also, do not try to explain something to the man through hints. If he rarely calls you and you want more, then just say so. Ekivoki will pass by your missus. Young people do not perceive such things.

Why are they laughing at female logic? Because women most often draw conclusions, make decisions, speak with the help of hints, of what is read between the lines. Men do very differently. Do not forget about it.

If you suddenly caught yourself thinking that the relationship is coming to naught, your faithful has somehow cooled down, then I recommend that you familiarize yourself with the work "What to do if the guy has fallen out of love."

Dear ladies, you urgently need to stop thinking that you are not worthy of something, that your happiness depends only on the man, that you are somehow not like that. In order for men to pay attention to you more often, you must be confident. You must love yourself.

Women often underestimate themselves. They think that they are ugly, too fat, stupid and much more. Stop thinking about such things and take care of yourself. Increase your level of education. Take care of your appearance. Start eating right. Find an interesting and useful activity outside of work.

When you become self-sufficient. confident and wise woman, then you will not be faced with the question of how to draw attention to yourself. Many young ladies complex because of a child. And they believe that it is impossible to find a man in this position. Believe me, this is not so. Read the article “Can I marry a child” and you will see for yourself.

You have everything you need to become an interesting woman. You can easily become the very one on which the gaze of all men rush. One has only to want and start to do something in this direction.

If your problems in relations with men are permanent, I think it will be extremely useful for you to read the article “What to do if personal life does not work out”. Remember that there is a way out of any situation. Even hopeless!

Dear ladies, I will be very glad to see your comments on this topic. Some of you may have encountered a similar problem. Did you decide to call the man first and what did it lead to? What did you do when a man disappeared for a week and did not call?

I have a slightly different problem. My man believes that calls and SMS are not needed at all. He believes that the abyss for a week and not communicate is normal for a relationship. We are the fifth year together. It's very hard. I’m constantly hysterical because he just doesn’t want to communicate with me. When I wanted to, I arrived. He wanted to leave. I don’t know what to do with it. We were talking about it. He said that he didn’t want to write and call, and that’s normal for him.

Hello Olga! The situation is really different and it should be not just difficult, but unbearable. How do you understand that the relationship is not over? Have you tried anything else to do except talk?

Hello, Elena! And I'm not sure that he still loves me. Although he says yes. The candy-bouquet period just ended. We generally have a very complicated relationship. I don’t want to put up with many things. Because in my understanding this is wrong. What is happening to us.
  What did you do? Yes all! Even parted. And then everything from the beginning. He is missing somewhere for a year.
A couple of days ago, I started talking again about his attitude to me, that I don’t like how he behaves and hurts. I became so evil. Already it comes to the fact that I have fallen to insults and fights. Threw herself at him and beat her hands. I became so scared. What was it? I acted like crazy! And he got scared. Me. I'm trying to convey to him that I feel bad. In response, I always hear "you always feel bad." I tried to explain that my behavior is a consequence of his attitude towards me. There has never been so much anger and hatred in me. He constantly laughs at me. I will make him laugh with my behavior, and this only makes me feel worse. But still I love. I don’t know how to behave. Tired of fighting.

Olga, from your story there is a feeling that he feels your inability to influence him. He is even having fun from this fact. And it is not at all surprising that you began to show yourself so aggressively. I think you also feel powerless. You can see that you love him, but do you agree to build just such a relationship?

Elena, yes, I really can’t influence him. Yes, and how? He is already 40. He took place as a person. He was married, has a daughter from his first marriage. He had everything that I dream about, was! Sometimes it seems to me that he survived all this and is now not interested in relationships that will develop into a family. Even more often I think that I do not cause a desire to love, care, respect. In the end get married! Thus showing that he wants to build his life with me.
  He considers himself smarter than others. He always includes a “psychologist” and says that no one will make me happy. I myself am responsible for this and should entertain myself. He does not see the border between spending time “together” and “next to” each other. I do not know how to make a difference. What should he do to change his attitude towards me?

Olga, I can definitely say that the idea of \u200b\u200bchanging his attitude is not crowned with success. All that is possible is just to change yourself and your attitude. And then, perhaps, he will change with you, without noticing it. This requires long-term therapy, it would be great for you to find a specialist in your city and visit him regularly. You can try to offer your man a walk together. What do you think is worth a try?

Elena, yes, I already thought about it. And he himself repeatedly sent me in words to a psychologist. I just can’t understand why only I should work on myself? Why is he not working on himself?

See how much protest he is causing you. You just need to understand that you are doing this not for him, but for yourself. In my practice, it was often the case that a woman after therapy became balanced, began to understand herself well and adhere to common sense, and the man remained the same. And in the future, this union disintegrated easily, without the possibility of a return and on the initiative of a woman. And there were those when, after the wife, the husband changed and now they interact very well and solve problems with a half kick. You win anyway.

Elena, this is not a protest. I just can’t understand why a woman should always change? I have changed so many times that I lost myself. I had hobbies, hobbies. now there is nothing. I am not interested in anything and cannot find any new occupation for myself. I stopped understanding who I am, what interests me! I changed myself so that I don’t recognize. I stopped being myself. And that hasn’t changed anything! Only anger appeared. On him, on himself. yes at all. Is it worth changing yourself if you already have a bitter experience of failure in this?

I am on your side, and your man, I think, is an opportunist and would have kicked him out in my personal opinion. It seemed as though it seemed to you that I was at one with him. Do not rush to answer, listen to yourself.

No, Elena, I understand that you are not defending him. But it causes me negative. that they are telling me from all sides that I must change. “Change yourself,” etc. In an effort to improve relationships, I have ceased to be a person. I hate myself for being weak and emotionally addicted to it. And I understand that it’s my fault. I changed for the sake of a relationship. But this did not give the desired result. And how to change for your own sake? If I can’t even choose an activity to distract myself. I want to be interesting to myself and to him.

Indeed, the call to change is annoying for anyone. And it looks like you did a lot for the sake of

  relationship. But it seems to me there is a difference, change for him and for himself. Therapy provides that just the person returns; accepts himself as he is; clearly understands what he needs; makes his plans; defends its interests and the like. Previously, you did this yourself, and the task of a specialist is to slow down when you are brought in and give the opinion of an uninterested person who is on your side. Even if you discard work on yourself, what option then remains? To live as before, to cope with conflicts with difficulty and to feel that you are not in control of the situation. Maybe I don’t see another option, share your opinion.

Well, why aren't we so alike? What for us is the beginning of a relationship, for men it may turn out to be an adventure that they won’t even remember the next day. But one should not be offended, such is their nature.

There is no point in vain blaming each other. But to study masculine nature in order to be fully armed, knowing about all the differences and "changes" of perception - it will not hurt. Read about the features of male psychology in .

Now let's move on to the main question. Flowers, champagne, compliments, affection - we all started so well ... So why doesn’t he call? For the hundredth time you ask yourself, lost in conjecture, trying to understand the reason for his cold, prickly silence.

Let's try to figure it out together. First of all, how much time has passed. If a couple of days have passed, then you should not worry. But, if he does not call a couple of weeks, then it is worth considering.

Reasons for the silence of a man

He does not call because he is busy. The reason is possible, but unlikely. Serious problems at work can interfere with a day's call, a maximum of two. The human nervous system is not designed for prolonged stress. That is why do not try to convince yourself that he is not calling, because the problems are at work. Of course, there are exceptions, but these are exceptions, and they are rare.

There are types of men who believe that they need to call only on business. I decided to invite you to the next date - I called. These are, as a rule, serious status men. But, if a man liked you, he will call you at least in order to find out that everything is fine with you.

Perhaps you did not notice your not entirely successful joke about his appearance or qualities, or pushed him off with an unpleasant statement. And, maybe, she corny refused sex on the first or second date. You hurt him, and he does not call to punish you.

Why isn’t he still calling?

There are among the stronger sex the so-called Casanova, who like to manipulate women. Such a man receives from the woman everything he wants, allowing him to love himself. And he doesn’t need to show initiative, because he needs the woman to make any concessions and tricks of such a “macho”. Such a comrade will not call first, that's for sure.

If your “macho” disappeared immediately after the first intimacy, and neither from your ears nor from your spirit, then sex is all that he wanted from you. This is extremely unpleasant, but, unfortunately, the most common reason for men's silence.

He does not call, because you are not the one he needs. But do not rush to become depressed. After all, this does not mean that you are ugly, stupid or evil - no! He could see your requirements for men and realized that he could not meet them, for example. Or he is experienced enough and noticed that you are too different in his views on life, you have little in common, including interests.

Some guys and men adhere to the tactic not to call a woman immediately after a date. They explain this by the possibility of increasing passion, a desire to meet with both, plus you both get time to think and feel how much you need a person. It is possible that this is the right approach. True, over time, this approach may develop into a real battlefield: who is who. Although there are requests for this kind of relationship. And on both sides.

A notorious man may not call because of self-doubt or fear, seem intrusive or boring. In this case, you have to take everything into your own hands. But first, you need to make sure that it is just that.

There may be a completely trivial reason - financial problems. I would like to invite to a popular place, surprise, interest, impress. But finance "sings romances." Perhaps he is waiting for a salary, although he could still call, at least to find out if everything is all right with you.

It often happens that he played the role of a cool macho with you. Boys and young boys often play this game. Those. he made an impression on you. And now you have to match the created image of a tough guy. But the car is not his, he did not go abroad and does not possess the qualities of which he spoke so much.

Perhaps he got what he wanted: sex, to impress, imaginary self-confidence. And, if you sunk into his soul, then how can he call you now? Indeed, to admit his complete powerlessness for him is tantamount to death. But to continue to play the role will not work. Vicious circle…

Why he does not call - a look of status men

Many of us men meet simply to unwind, to diversify our impressions, not counting on the continuation of the "banquet". Therefore, women, stop thinking that you are everything to us. We often just are not up to you. We are more attracted to a career, competition with our own kind, the realization of a major goal, social status and sex, like a trophy in the form of sexual victory.

We are not particularly worried about conquering the next young lady - there are many peaks around that you want to conquer and conquer. And you women are more dependent on us, no matter what you imagine. Therefore, you only think about how to capture and hold a status peasant. You think all the time about him and even for him.

Here is an opinion. Male psychology first hand. Draw conclusions, hunters for the successful and wealthy. And remember: in order to really interest a man, you need to meet him in most respects, including the level of development and social status. Otherwise, there is a high risk of becoming just another tick in the list of his victories.

What if the man does not call?

Before you do anything, figure out how much you need it. Perhaps your focus on the absence of his call is only a wounded pride. Then is it worth breaking spears? Or there was a desire to teach a lesson to your boyfriend. Or maybe it's a way to squeeze out your insecurity? Therefore, feel, determine if this particular man, guy, is so important to you.

If it turns out that you really like him, the first thing to do is calm down. In any way that works for you. Strong emotions have never been assistants in such matters, rather the opposite.

Next, just call and find out what happened to him. This is a normal move, an occasion to clarify the situation. Especially if you assume that you could hook him with something. Or in case of objective reasons: his illness, unforeseen business trip to a place with a lack of communication, etc.

This option will give you the opportunity not only to find out what happened, but also to feel his attitude towards you. Try to be calm so that emotions do not interfere with the perception of conversation and the ability to feel adequately. You will recognize a man’s attitude to himself by the tone of his voice, his manner of conducting a conversation, his emotional coloring, and other signs. So you save a lot of your time and energy, and at the same time find out the main thing - how he treats you.

It also happens that a man has not yet figured out how much he likes you. You will also feel this from a conversation with him. Then give him and yourself time to deal with feelings. It may not be easy for you to do this, but what to do? We have no power over our feelings and cannot force ourselves to fall in love or fall out of love with someone. It happens or not. Therefore, it is better to immediately decide, then to suffer less.

There are many reasons for the man’s silence, but the main one is that he will call only if he wants to. And he will find how to do it, believe me. That's why he is a MAN. Or do you disagree?