What to do if a man does not call
What does the absence of guy calls after meeting?
First of all, stop attaching great importance to this fact. Surely, you have not studied this person well enough, and do not know many features of his character. It is likely that he rarely communicates by telephone and does not consider this important. Many men use the phone only to determine the date of a new date. It’s okay to happen if after a few days of silence you dial his number. Suddenly he lost your contacts? Hearing him “Hello?”, Do not ask him why he did not call, is this behavior normal for him and so on. Just ask how he is doing, whether everything is fine with him. If the man himself does not want to explain his silence, then round off the conversation, wish him a good mood, and hang up. Now his move. If calls do not follow in the next couple of weeks, then, apparently, he simply does not consider it necessary to make calls. The best thing you can do is delete his number, and do not wait until he deigns to give you time.In long-term relationships, everyone calls up or writes off less often.
At the beginning of the novel, many couples constantly call up or write off, sharing with each other almost every little thing that happens to them during the day. Not all lovers continue to do so after months of meeting or living together. This is not surprising, given that in short telephone conversations everyday questions gradually begin to prevail - what to buy, what bills to pay, and the like. Naturally, over time, such conversations deprive the old romance of communication, and less and less often cause a man to call with the same frequency as before. Yes, and you probably no longer control yourself, and often tell your lover in telephone conversations about everything that has boiled up. Perhaps you have tired of him with endless calls on all sorts of unimportant occasions for him. Change your approach to such conversations, and soon you will notice changes in the behavior of a loved one.A man does not call for a long time
First meeting periodIf you had one or more dates, then you can’t count on what the guy will call you every hour. Of course, quite often many people do this, but silence for two or three days is also quite natural. Some young people are actively interested in pick-up practices, according to which, you need to wait a certain number of days before calling the girl on a date again. They prefer to communicate in exactly this way: one call is equal to one date. Therefore, for several days you may not even worry about this. However, if a young man does not call for a week, then you can call him once. This does not humiliate you at all, because it is possible that he simply lost your number. Although if a man has other ways to contact you (social networks, mutual friends, etc.) then then you definitely should not call him. Ongoing relationshipFor couples who live together, over time calls not on business can completely come to naught. If this situation does not suit you, then just discuss it with your loved one, explaining how important it is for you to keep in touch with him during the day. Perhaps you just meet for a long time, and gradually the man began to call less and less. If earlier you called up every morning and evening, but suddenly he disappeared for two days, then this is a cause for concern. There is nothing wrong with calling herself to find out if he is doing well. It so happens that calls from a man are sharply reduced, or even completely stopped, and all dates come from a woman’s initiative. It is possible that the chosen one wants to end the relationship or is carried away by another, but does not know how to say this. Bring him to an honest conversation, and if he says that you are wrong, but nothing changes, then stop calling him. Most likely, there will be no response, and this means that your “frank” dialogue was not out of nowhere.If the guy I’m dating does not write first, but always answers
There are several options for this behavior. 1. He is uninitiatedThere is such a type of guys who at first show at least some initiative, but gradually completely transfer it to the shoulders of the beloved. They will gladly support any of her ideas, agree to a meeting, fulfill the request, but they themselves will not take the first steps. If you shut up for a month, then after this period he may well write to you with resentment: “Where did you go?”. Some girls like to be leading in relationships - over time, they accept this state of affairs and get used to some kind of infantility of a boyfriend.2. He is politeHe has long lost interest in your communication and his silence makes it clear. He replies to your messages solely out of politeness, afraid to seem rude or tactless. For some reason, he does not dare to finally part with you, but he does not value this alliance too much. 3. Does not want to be intrusiveHe is not confident in himself and your sympathy for him. He really does not want to receive a refusal or see a dry answer, so he prefers to stay inactive. He reacts enthusiastically to each of your messages, receiving another confirmation that you are still interested. In general, the young man has low self-esteem, and if you like him, then gradually you can change the situation, frankly saying that you are really looking forward to his initiative. In support of these words, always warmly respond to his messages, respond in a detailed manner and try to maintain a dialogue with reciprocal questions. 4. He does not like to correspondThere are guys who do not communicate on the Web or via SMS “just like that”, using this type of communication only to solve important issues at work or study. He can be a "holiday man" on dates, while not being able and unwilling to build a dialogue on the Internet. Just accept it like that, and enjoy chatting in person. 5. He is very busy.If the lack of initiative of a guy is a temporary phenomenon, most likely, he is simply very busy. Remember if he had any special plans or find out from the correspondence from your submission. The main thing is that he maintains communication with you - perhaps because of his busyness; he still does not even analyze that it is up to you to start the dialogue.
Why doesn’t the guy call after the first date
It is important for many people what impression they make, and, of course, the girls want to receive confirmation of their attractiveness in the form of a call after the first date with a guy. If a few days have passed since the meeting, and the guy has not called, then this can serve several reasons. He wants to wait some period. In general, guys who want to meet again after the first date fall into two categories. Some of them call back immediately, while others wait a few days until the next conversation. In the second case, young people want to give the girl an opportunity to get bored until a new date. Not interested. Perhaps the first date did not meet some of his personal expectations, and he did not dare to say so immediately. In any case, remember how your communication went. If you are convinced that everything was perfect, then you should call yourself in a couple of days. Maybe he just lost your number. I did not feel your interest. Many girls during the first meeting are afraid to talk too much, thereby spoiling their impression. In this case, the meeting goes like this: the guy tells some stories about himself, and his interlocutor significantly smiles, periodically nods and answers quite briefly any questions. Some guys are intrigued by this behavior, and they want to understand what is hidden behind such mystery. But there are also young people who come to the conclusion that they simply did not make much impression, therefore they stop trying to make contact, not wanting to feel stupid. He is a pikaper. Trying to gain self-confidence and gain experience in communicating with the opposite sex, some men enroll in pick-up courses or use their “rules" just by browsing the Internet. In this case, dating is not the beginning of a serious relationship for them - they just learn to make the right impression. Most likely, your number has been saved, and in case of a new acquaintance may call you again. You were too intrusive. We have already considered the option when a girl can frighten off her alienation on a date, but another option is likely: you were too talkative or tactless. Not every man likes to listen to the flow of information about the former lover of his interlocutor or the story of her girlfriends. Also, few people are able to charm excessive curiosity or obscene speech. Perhaps you constantly interrupted him or behaved somewhat frivolously, while he was counting on a completely different format of communication.
What to do if he calls very rarely
People have a different attitude to many things, and calls are among them. Perhaps you believe that a man rarely calls, but in fact for him this is a completely normal frequency.How to respond to rare calls from a guy
If you keep in touch, though rare, and it was about the same from the very beginning of your relationship, then something is unlikely to change. It is likely that your chosen one does not need closer communication, or his day is so busy with business that it’s just hard for him to choose the time to call. It will be a serious mistake if you subtract him from each conversation that he pays you little attention . Also, do not answer him with a clear resentment. It will be better if you sometimes “miss” his calls, subsequently calling back and explaining that you were busy with some interesting business and simply did not hear the phone signal. Of course, it will be great if you find yourself this very “thing” (sign up for dancing, fitness, photography lessons, etc.), and then inattention of a lover will worry you much less.What to do to make a man want to call you more often
To make a man want to call you, in telephone conversations you should communicate with him in a positive manner, be interested in his affairs and tell how richly your day goes. Avoid phrases: “I don’t know what to do all evening,” “so boring, tell me something,” “I’m tired of waiting for you to call.” Such words can completely kill a guy’s desire to dial your number. If you don’t have enough communication with your young man, it’s okay to call him from time to time - not every hour, but at least every two to three days . No need to start with the words: “I'm going home, I just decided to chat with someone about this and that,” “where did you go?” Just say that I would like to wish him a good day, find out how he is doing and his mood. If he doesn’t ask counter-questions, then say something like: “okay, actually I’m a little busy right now, I just wanted to hear your voice for a couple of seconds, I’ll continue to do my own business.” All this is said in a good mood, without resentment and sarcasm in his voice.Why does a man write in VK or via SMS, but does not call
It’s easier for himSome guys prefer to communicate with girls in person or by phone, while others prefer particular attention to correspondence. Perhaps, like many other people, he feels more confident when communicating via electronic lines. It is possible that for some reason it is much more difficult for him to select words in personal conversations. At the same time, there is a possibility that a man who is very confident in himself and, perhaps, even impudent by correspondence, is very shy and timid in “real” life, and does not want you to understand this by phone. Circumstances hinder himIf the previous option is definitely not related to your interlocutor, then there may be circumstances that prevent him from calling you. For example, he works in a large team and is almost always in front of colleagues, in which he is not comfortable talking to you. Although the situation may be worse - the presence of another girl with whom he spends time, and, of course, will not at the same time conduct conversations with you. Or he is very busy at work, and it is easier for him to write you a few phrases in his spare minutes than to dial your number and speak in snatches. Not interested in communicationIt’s easier for him to answer a few words without investing any emotions in them than to portray interest in a real conversation. True, this version is excluded if the man writes you a lot of messages. He does not like to talk on the phoneNot everyone likes to communicate via telephone, especially in the era of social networks. Conducting a conversation in VK or via SMS, a young person can periodically go away without explaining each time the reason, for example, a two-minute silence. It is even possible that he simply does not like how his voice sounds on the phone, and he avoids communicating in this way. Waiting for your callHe simply can’t decide on the call, believing that you don’t really need it. To exclude this possibility, hint in the dialogue that you would like to hear his voice. Or just simply ask: “Maybe we'll talk on the phone somehow?” By his answer, most likely, you will be able to determine why he prefers communication via SMS or social networks.It is better to live in illusions than accept the bitter truth - a man does not call, which means he does not love and does not remember. But one wants to believe that there are other reasons why He plays in silence. They really exist. But are they comforting, says psychologist Elena Citrava.
Reasons for the silence of a man
The reasons for the silence of a man depend on many circumstances and on the stage of relations with him:
- Doesn't ring after the first date
- According to statistics, many men after the first date (even the most successful) take a timeout. So their fearful psyche is arranged. They need to digest what has happened and comprehend the perspective. This may take more than one day. Do not panic. A flurry of calls and text messages also does not yet speak of the far-reaching plans of the man. Another option is also possible. Women are more emotional and assertive in communicating with a man. He can be regarded as pressure and pressure. Particularly impressionable or independent men are very afraid when they attack, take the initiative in their own hands or simply inform in an innocent voice that her mother will be glad to such a son-in-law. Decisiveness and heightened emotionality are just her character. But it is he for a man - an occasion not to call.
- Doesn't ring after an argument
In this case, silence is obvious. The man is offended, proudly waiting for the first step and repentance from the woman. silent because he expects the same. This stubborn competition is painful for both sides. The point in the pause, as a rule, is set by the one who is wiser or who loves more.
- Does not call, because he is not a fan of calls
Yes, in the modern world of total “telephone installation,” there are men who avoid talking on the phone. They do not like to call, much less write. The maximum that can be obtained from such a man is a short proposal to meet. The only question is how much can it be expected? Long. A very long time. A man is going to meet, but since he rarely uses the phone, a woman can find out about this only when he is ready for a date. Experiences will disappear after a closer acquaintance with a man and an understanding of his character traits.
- Don't call because busy
Often this is hard to believe. A banal excuse for all men who do not want to date a woman, but who do not want to offend her with a gross refusal. However, there are those frequent cases when even the most in love man disappears from sight and hearing, when he is devoted to work, makes a career or earns serious money. And he also has relatives and obligations to them, force majeure situations and, unfortunately, accidents can also happen to him. Before being offended, you need to consider all this.
- Does not call, because financially does not pull the woman’s requests
Sometimes this reason works after the first date. A woman does not suffer from modesty, and does not restrain herself in choosing an expensive menu in a restaurant, requirements to pamper her with exquisite gifts and drive to chic establishments. Even a wealthy man who can afford to support a whole harem will run away from this. None of the men want to feel like an unlimited bank card. The consumer attitude of a woman is a completely logical reason not to call, write, or even forget that she was in the life of a man.
- Doesn't call because Casanova
- He does not call, because he is hopelessly married
This reason is a classic of the genre. A man is married, which a woman may not even suspect. He has fun, searches for adrenaline or implements the “hunter instinct” so as not to lose the “quality mark”. Why should he call if a serious relationship is not in his plans? Moreover, if the relationship dragged on, the woman began to expect serious steps from him or suspect of his unfree status.
- He does not call because he does not like
Here it is, the most painful and frequent reason for the silence of men. All the previous reasons are insignificant, insignificant, resolved if the man is in love. There is no power that can keep a man from communicating with a woman. Nevertheless, they know that when a person wants, he seeks opportunities, and if not, causes. A man will find a second, a moment, to let a woman know - he remembers and loves. And talk? For this, phones are not needed. For this, eyes, soul and intuition are quite enough.
What does the statistics say?
There is an everyday analysis of men's silence, but there is eloquent statistics, which in percentage terms put all the dots on the “i”:
- 1% - men don’t call because they lost their phone 2% - men incorrectly wrote down or lost a woman’s phone number 7% - men are afraid that they will be refused 11% - men are offended or stay with a woman in a quarrel 79% - a woman is not interested
Is a phone call really such a special sign of attention that you cannot put on a par with others: flowers, compliments, an invitation somewhere?
The reason for such female doubts, and even torment, lies in the peculiarities of female psychology, which we have already mentioned above: hidden initiative, the maximum program in the categories of thinking, the pattern "the more women we are less ...", and others. And you can’t alter nature, which means you need to use it to your advantage
So why don't men still call? There may be a thousand reasons, so I would divide them into three main categories.
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The first of them - wants, thinks to call, but does not call. He is not in a hurry to do this, or does not show zeal, or even does not dare - which also happens.
A) I must say, for men, phone calls are not of such great importance, and men do not experience such addiction to the phone. Have you ever seen a man talking on the phone for 40 minutes? If so, then on the other end is the woman who called him, and he has been thinking for about 25 minutes on what pretext to hang up. Therefore, men do not call themselves, they honestly do not understand how important these calls are for women.
So we get misunderstanding each other and fanning this problem. He - completely without a second thought - did not call and does not imagine that this is a reason for female resentment. And, moreover, her imagination will draw a bunch of reasons for her why he “ignored” her.
In addition, this feature of the female nature is also included in this process, which is formulated “the more women we are less ...” - see paragraph 11 — two chapters above;
B) At the initial stage of the relationship, there are quite simple reasons why a guy does not call? For example, men who are not particularly talkative can have a problem, such as: “Well, I’ll call, but what can I talk about?” Moreover, say so, so as not to spoil my impression of myself?
Sometimes this moment in the male consciousness can be further aggravated by financial circumstances. After all, calling is the same - inviting. And where, if there is no money, and before the salary another 2 weeks? ..
Or even worse, the complexes turn on. “Yes, after what was to call? She will send me away! “And what was there, did she notice that there was something wrong? After all, different people evaluate the same events differently.
C) Finally, he may not call, because there are “technical” reasons - the phone is broken, the number is lost, he flew away, went to where there is no connection. And after a couple of weeks (or even more) to call? Already somehow already ... "do not rely" - here.
If he as a whole has an interest in you, this is easily verified by a personal meeting. Planned, or random, or type random. If you like him, you will quickly understand. If meeting is too difficult, then try another way of communication - email, for example. If it starts to slow down, it means that you cannot get into a flag connection either.
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The second reason is that he does not want to call. Why? Do not even ask this question! Otherwise, it will begin, like: “I did not impress him, he did not like me, I made mistakes, I ...”. And a bunch of other false conclusions.
A) So, even if he defiantly took your phone number and made a test call, it is not a fact that he was really going to call you.
B) Maybe you really did not like him.
C) Maybe he has a wife without you, plus two lovers and a girlfriend, plus boiling work and a favorite hobby. As a result, for you - no matter whether he liked you or not - you don’t have the time, energy, or opportunities. “Why in vain to call, reassure, if I do not plan a relationship with her?”
D) If you had a stormy evening with a romantic continuation, and then he does not call or write, it is possible that that stormy evening was the end in itself of your meeting, its ending. Who knows, maybe he will remember him all his life, or maybe he already forgot?
Reasons from the second category - listed or others - are easily verified by phone call. You call him, and he begins to make excuses, lists the reasons, even the most plausible ones, puts everything off for later and another time. In this case, intonation does not even matter, only the essence and meaning are important.
Or, as an option, you call him, but the guy does not pick up the phone and does not call back. It is clear that a person may be busy at the time of the call, but then he should be curious, why did such a nice pretty girl call him? Or does he show no interest, or even prefers to “hide,” than to invent “excuses”?
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Option Three - Pessimistic :(
A) The guy does not pick up the phone, rejects calls, interrupts the conversation - it means only one thing - he does not want to communicate with you!
B) It happens, of course, that men use this technique to abandon their girlfriend: they start calling less and less, and gradually stop dating in this way. This is such a “soft way” to leave your girlfriend. For men, this is a really soft way to break up, but not for women. First, women are tormented by the question “why a man does not call,” then - “why doesn’t he pay attention to her, so good,” then - “why did he abandon her?” After so many experiences for a long time, she, naturally, will come to the conclusion that all men are “kazly”.
How to check it? He avoids not only meetings, but also any other communication options. He either does not answer your calls at all or rejects all your initiatives. Maybe even rude, trying to poke you offensively in a conversation, talking so that you no longer have the desire to call him and see him. Naturally, he does not call, except for forgotten things or some remaining matters. At the same time, he does not feel pleasure, he tries to minimize the time of communication.
C) It is also possible that he manipulates you. It will appear, it will ring, it will disappear. Thus, it makes you think a lot about yourself, using the same pattern “The bigger the woman, the smaller ...“. Question: Does he consciously do this, and why? Maybe he’s a master of sports in pickup, or maybe it coincides so accidentally?
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In any case, do not be so sad that someone is not calling you. To dig into the reasons without having the proper amount of reliable information is useless. And even harmful to the nervous system. Than guess, better check the information! After all, any information can be verified to one degree or another. If we are talking about the first option, you will quickly understand this. If the second or third - you will also figure it out very soon, the only question is, how long will you deceive yourself? Or worse, do it yourself.
Be sure - there will always be someone who will call. And not just call! ..
Anecdote on the topic:
“Ahhh !!! He's calling!! heck!! waited !! my beloved is calling ... so .. everything .. - Hello, what did you want? ”
All patterns in relations between men and women are compensated.
Girls care (infuriates, makes you vomit and throw, doubt, panic, disheartened - emphasize the necessary), if the guy does not call.
Likewise, guys are annoyed if his girlfriend does not pick up the phone.
14. About power.
The weaker sex is not because it is weaker, because it is physically weaker, sometimes women are not so inferior in strength to some men. (Look at women's weightlifting competitions!) And if you lose in strength, then this is more than compensated by dexterity and flexibility.
It’s just that a woman’s life has a rather long period when she is very vulnerable, needs support and protection. This is the period of pregnancy and the first years of growth of the child. And there are a few more weeks when a woman is generally of limited legal capacity - this is on the eve of childbirth and the first months of the baby's appearance.
In men, of course, there are no such periods, or even compensating for this. Therefore, men are traditionally called the stronger sex.
Why, some men, after a wonderful time together, suddenly disappear without explanation and do not make themselves felt. In men and women For all the arguments of the author of the article, a columnist Igor Chersky gives own counterarguments.
1. If he does not call after meeting, then it may well be that because of an overabundance of feelings, your phone was crookedly recorded, confused by the fingers in the numbers on the touch panel. Or he lost the napkin on which the number was written on the lipstick.
Igor Chersky: This is unlikely. A normal man can lose everything, but not the phone of the woman he likes. An exception is possible only if he got drunk before losing consciousness, but then this is most likely due to the appearance of the woman, and she simply is not in his taste.
2. Phones are still stealing. It is possible that the man’s mobile was so attractive that he was stolen. And now the handsome prince has no way to contact the beautiful princess.
Igor Chersky:If a man is not a rotos, his phones are rarely stolen, so the probability is also very low. Then he would use any other way to find you. For example, through social networks and dating service, where you found each other.
3. Your acquaintance was a mistake. Not in the sense that he regrets it very much, but simply does not remember that it happened (there may be completely different reasons for this). Therefore, dialing seven numbers that belong to an incomprehensible to whom is pointless.
Igor Chersky: "Your acquaintance was a mistake ... he simply does not remember that it happened." The first statement is true, the second is not. The man just remembers that it was a mistake - and therefore does not call.
4. After some thought, the man decided that you are not his fate and Alena, with whom he broke up a week ago, is actually a woman of his life. Therefore, it is better to immediately disappear from the field of view and not stir up your soul with empty hopes (but you will keep the number anyway, suddenly break up with Alena again).
Igor Chersky:But it happens, yes. People are generally prone to moods and they always want different things.
5. Any man has friends. Usually there are a lot of them, and they have garages, children, fishing and footballs. And in minutes, the “friend needs” the whole world — including you — disappears and only the FRIEND remains, to which you must rush headlong and fasten the mirror to his jeep.
Igor Chersky:Helping a friend takes a maximum of a day. Well, two, and it happens three times a year. And the peasant does not call at all for no reason.
6. No matter how strong men are, they too may be offended and not feel like being the first to get in touch. Sometimes it’s not very clear what exactly a person might take offense at, but if the silence becomes too sinister - it makes sense to call herself and find out what it is.
Igor Chersky:That is yes. In any case, this is better than suffering in the unknown and drop self-esteem, looking for flaws in yourself.
7. There are times when you don’t want to talk to anyone at all - be it a beautiful lady or a boss from work. I just want to stay in silence for at least a few days and not have any conversations.
Igor Chersky: Golden words and thanks for understanding! And you never want to talk to the boss at all - it rarely ends well.
8. From the happiness that fell on his head in the form of you, he simply lost his speechlessness and cannot find words to call you and invite him to the next date.
Igor Chersky: Do not flatter yourself. Happiness would have inspired him to poems, flowers and serenades, and not to death at all.
9. He died unexpectedly. It’s sad, of course, but it happens.
Igor Chersky: Just as sad. After all, now again it will take a long time to look for normal.
10. Perhaps, for him, “picking up the phone” is a daily process, and the matter is not in quality, but in quantity. That is, you came across an ordinary pikaper who collects numbers, but is not going to call.
Igor Chersky: I think there are no more women who don’t see a pikaper a mile away. The stupid set of identical phrases and the increased cheekiness with which he is trying to cover his complexes give the pickuper a chance to get acquainted only with completely inexperienced creatures. I will add three more reasons:
11. Something happened to the car. Everything is for a man, and if suddenly it does not start, the whole world fades around. He, of course, will call you, but first he will fix the car. If suddenly it happened otherwise, then it's just some unearthly passion for you, congratulations.
12. Sometimes a man does not call because he already had a similar thing a hundred times and he knows what will happen next. You have nothing to do with it and you can be an ideal, that’s not the point. By the way, if you are ideal, this is also bad, because everything impeccable is boring. You certainly should have some nice flaws that will arouse your sympathy, but about this I will write a separate article.
13. He was suddenly called by three of his previous women, two of whom he had already missed terribly. You always feel amazing when your ex is having someone. And when someone new just ascends to the horizon, all of you immediately appear. Well, just like that, how are you doing, nothing like that. And then point 4 may well come.
Lack of connection with a man in any case raises questions and anxiety, but one must understand that if a couple has a future, then the opportunity to be alone is only for the better. In separation, you can evaluate your feelings for a partner and see a lot from the outside.
You met by chance or you were brought together by mutual friends, talked well, seemed to even like each other, agreed that he would call - and suddenly he was gone. You do not release the phone from your hands, and each call makes the heart beat faster. But the hopes are not met, every time someone else calls. And you are tormented by questions, why doesn’t he call?
In the film “Promise does not mean to marry,” one guy explains to a naive girl: if he does not call or write, then he simply does not want to. If he liked you, he will surely find a way to contact you, even if his phone was suddenly stolen from him, he was kidnapped or sent on a business trip to Antarctica, and you were in transit.
In principle, this is true, but one point should be taken into account: films still idealize guys, but in reality there are many gamers forgetting everything during the raid, infantile sissies who are afraid to take the first step, just indecisive guys. If you want to know something, act on your own.
Reasons why he does not write / does not call
Let's say right away: in most cases, the lack of a call is an indication that he really just does not want to call you.
And all your explanations are just excuses. Drop it right away if it comes to your mind:
- He lost your number. Remember how he saved your coordinates? Most likely, I wrote it on the phone. Or did you put a napkin with the cherished numbers in his pocket? In the second case, there is still an insignificant probability that he accidentally threw a piece of paper, but in the first it is problematic to lose the number.
- His phone was stolen. Before meeting with you, his device was safe, and then suddenly an insidious thief encroached on him? Admit to yourself, this is just an excuse, and inept.
- He was urgently sent on a business trip. Well, what is stopping you from calling on a business trip, warning about the absence in the city and making an appointment on your return? He was not sent to an uninhabited island.
- He is very busy.Even a person who works for days sometimes eats and goes out for a smoke break. Two minutes to dial your number and say “Hello”, it is quite possible to allocate from 24 hours, right?
- He died. Yes, many girls think so. This is a good reason why a guy who was so sweet and charming, so attentive, ignored you. But the probability is negligible. Most likely, he just picked up another.
But you can still take into account several real factors, because of which he does not show signs of life after meeting.
- He is a gamer.And he went on another raid, on which the fate of his clan depends. But he certainly cannot last a week, so wait, for example, for three days, after which you can send a new friend to the archive.
- His friends convinced him. There are individuals who are very dependent on the opinions of their friends. If his friends did not approve of you, then they might well dissuade you from calling. But you don’t need such a suggestible guy, right?
- He was taken into the army. Oddly enough, such unlikely coincidences also happen. In this case, of course, you will not wait for the call, but then it will not be so offensive if you find out the truth.
- He went to the hospital. This is also a matter of chance, such a probability cannot be ruled out. But don't rely on her too much.
- He was drunk and forgot how you look. Now he is very afraid that you will turn out to be an impressive aunt with a mustache, which in the blink of an eye will put him in his hands. Remember how sober was your chosen one at the time of meeting.
It’s best to immediately set a call waiting time for yourself. Consider all possible factors and wait, for example, a week. After this time, overcome disappointment and throw the failed cavalier out of your head.
Just forget, there are still men on Earth!
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The options that he really lost or incorrectly recorded your number, his phone was stolen, or he suddenly froze and hesitates to call you, still have the right to exist. In any case, it is better to clarify the situation as soon as possible, and not look for flaws in yourself, but for him - fantastic excuses. Got his number? Call or write.
You can always take the first step without hurting your own pride.
- Unobtrusively remind yourself. Write a short SMS: “Hello, it's me. I’m sitting now in the cafe where we met, remembered you, decided to find out how you are doing? ”
- Fictitious pretext. Call or write a message, referring to the lost day of acquaintance with him a thing, did not he have it?
- Direct question. This is already an option for decisive girls who do not like to beat around the bush. Just ask: “Why don't you call, don't you write? If you decide not to continue your acquaintance, say so. ” Bear in mind that the lack of an answer is also a very unequivocal answer.
The guy does not get in touch: how to understand why he disappeared and what to do?
You could talk only one evening or call up for a while, after which he suddenly disappears. Moreover, he does not answer your calls and SMS. Here you have only two options:
- Forget him. Well, what can you do, it happens that the relationship for various reasons does not work out, although it all starts well. Maybe he met another girl, perfect, falling in love with her from the first, fleeting glance. Maybe I realized that you do not coincide with the image of "his" person. Do not get upset very much, which means it will develop with someone else.
- Find out why he was missing. If you already know a little, you probably found out about his friends or at least a place of study or housing. Try to find out through someone whether everything is in order with the young man. What if something really happened to him? If you are informed that he is alive and well, eats well and regularly walks with friends - see point 1.
It is hard for a woman to realize that she was not interested in the man. This greatly affects pride and often gives rise to complexes. That is why you need to consider several professional tips.
- Do not look for flaws in yourself. You probably do this more often than necessary. If a man does not call, remember, this does not mean that you are boring, bad, ugly. You just do not coincide with the ideal image of this particular man. Admit that this time there will be no continuation, and throw it out of your head.
- Do not call him. You can call or write once in order to clarify the situation and not torment yourself with conjectures, but you should not call him several times a day, inventing occasions. This will only bore him and make you want to change the number.
- Do not go in cycles. This man may touch you ideal, and you can even try to interest him, despite his ignoring. But do not make it the goal of your life. Not everything happens as you want. Better pay attention to other men.
More than 2 weeks have passed, but he doesn’t get in touch
If he does not write 2, 3 days, this can still be explained. Let’s say he left, became ill, and at work is in a hurry. But a young man who ignores you for more than two weeks is clearly not interested in building any relationship with you. Deal with what did not work out this time. Feel free to delete the number and go in search of new happiness. If this Romeo suddenly appears on the horizon, think carefully about whether to communicate with him and give him a second chance.
What status should I put on social networks so that he calls?
He calls only at night: what to do?
You talk for hours, he sleeps you with SMS and calls regularly, but for some reason only at night. You, though glad of his calls, prefer to sleep at night. How to get out of this situation.
- Find out why he calls only at night. Try to give a hint, but it’s better to say directly that it’s not very convenient for you to communicate with him at night. Why does he choose it? Maybe the young man is a wholly-owned owl, sleeping in the afternoon, or he works as a night watchman, and spends shifts with you, or maybe he is just afraid of the dark?
- Offer a compromise. Try to find a time for calls that will be convenient for both of you. Better yet, go to personal meetings. But explain to your gentleman that talking at night will soon lead to the fact that you will have sleep disturbances and unaesthetic bruises under the eyes.
- Turn off the phone. If he is interested in talking with you, why not call in the morning, afternoon or evening? If he doesn’t respond to your explanations, just turn off the phone at night or put it into silent mode. At the same time, you’ll check the young man’s attitude towards you: if after a while he stops calling, he not only felt sympathy for you, but used you to fight boredom.
He rarely calls - only once a day!
Who told you that once a day calls are rare? First, calculate how much time you are talking: if your conversation lasts several hours, then there is a lot of one call. Secondly, find out why this happens.
- He is not a supporter of telephone conversations. And that makes sense. Communication by phone can turn real communication into torment: if you get used to his voice, you can stop perceiving the whole person. Ask, maybe he just prefers to meetings over calls.
- Clarify his schedule. For a person who studies, works, goes to the gym, learns foreign languages, enjoys his favorite hobby, a call once a day is already a lot. The fact that he finds time for you in his schedule, says a lot, so do not rush to arrange a tantrum.
- Ask to call more often. Just say a conversation that you are pleased to hear his voice. What if he does not dare to bother you more often, for fear of getting bored with you?
A man does not call because he does not want?
If he does not suffer from an inborn fear of telephones, then yes, he does not call, because he does not want to. An enthusiastic man will call you at least once, at least in order to quickly make an appointment on which he will tell about his phobia. If a week has passed, and from him neither a call, nor a short SMS, nor a carrier pigeon, then you can look for another fan.
We recently met: why is he not calling, not writing?
Relationships may not be born right away, and if at the first meeting you had a nice chat, found common topics, exchanged numbers, but he is in no hurry to call you, he probably did not take you as a potential girl.
In this case, start acting yourself: call, write SMS, invite to take a walk. Start communicating in a friendly format, and gradually you can conquer it with your bewitching beauty and sharp mind.
If he took your number without leaving his own and is not announced even after a few days, stop looking at the phone every five minutes: you simply did not interest him. Well, nothing happens. Maybe he will also call, but let it be a small and sweet surprise, and not a long-awaited event.
As a rule appeared, that girls don’t call first, you won’t find out already, but now many young ladies think that a guy should call and write first. How to achieve this if he stubbornly does not want to take the initiative?
- Tell me how nice you are to hear it. Rejoice at his calls so that he would like to please you again. If you show sincere delight at the sound of his voice in the receiver, he will start calling more often: everyone is pleased to know what awaits them.
- Call first. And tell me that you miss him. There are two options: either he will call so that you get less bored, or you will bother him with inappropriate calls so much that he will start calling himself when it suits him.
- Ask him to call more often. Men don’t really like telephone communication, but if you explain how important this is for you, your chosen one will probably try to please you.
We were on the first date, after him he does not call. What to do?
Perhaps he was so overwhelmed by you that he was speechless and forgot how to write messages, but it is more likely that the first date was unsuccessful.
True, it’s not manly to leave the girl in ignorance, so in a couple of days you yourself can dial his number and ask if it makes sense to wait for an invitation to a second date. If he does not answer anything definite or does not pick up the phone at all, alas, you are not a couple. The main thing is not to delay the clarification of the situation, so as not to suffer from guesses and anxieties.
He does not get in touch for several months: he does not care for me?
Yes, definitely. A few months is a long time, during this time it is difficult not to decide on your feelings. Silence for several weeks is an understandable sign, and months mean that you are indifferent to it. Stop building castles in the air and finally come back to reality.
Could pride be the reason that he does not call?
Guys have many ways to show their pride, but if he believes that calling first is below his dignity, check if he is a disguised girl. A man who has the instincts of a hunter and wants to conquer a woman will never give the initiative to call her first. Otherwise, you need to think about whether you need a guy with such a hypertrophied sense of pride?
His calls and sms have changed - is this the end of a relationship?
Regular calls and SMS are a clear sign of his interest in you. But if they gradually become smaller, do not make hasty conclusions, just analyze the situation.
- How has your telephone conversation changed? Does his SMS remain as warm and his voice tender, just calls and messages less common? Most likely, he simply does not have much time, but he is trying to devote spare time to you. Nothing threatens your relationship.
- How has your real communication changed? Have you seen each other more often? Then he most likely believes that the need for telephone communication has disappeared. It’s generally difficult for a man to talk on the phone, killing time in chatter about anything, and if there is an opportunity to just meet in person, then he will choose this option.
- What is his attitude to telephone communication? Have you asked about this? At the first stage of falling in love, your chosen one could call you, winning, but maybe he just doesn’t like talking on the phone and SMS?
If your communication simply goes “no”, calls become less frequent, and messages are drier, he simply loses interest in you. Not necessarily your relationship will end, because, having noticed the coldness on his part, you can take action, but still this is an alarming signal.
And do not forget the main thing: an enthusiastic, in love man will seek communication with you, and you will not have to come up with excuses for him why he does not call and is not able to type a few words.
